Why didn’t they do this?
They were supposed to do this. You need to be analyzing actions when it comes to relations, not words.
Expectations need to be basic and based on fundamental ethics when it comes to any relationship. You can’t expect all the words to be always right from your near and dear ones.
We are human beings. We have the liberty not to think and build our sentences at least when we are with our dear ones.
We can have random talks and we can expect the same too from them because we know they won’t be judgemental about us, But if actions are wrong and words are sugar coated then the integrities of the person towards this relation is compromised.
There isn’t any point in counting on such a person. There exists such people who speak volumes to please you and have loads against you which speaks in their actions.