I always felt no one will get judgmental about a mother’s upbringing or approach towards her children. Because a mother is always considered to be right about what she decides for her children and the way she executes those decisions. But that’s not true and need not be true either.
When people get judgmental about someone, the impact on the person is in two ways, either you try to get better or you give up.
And a mother is always willing to implement and re-implement kaizen (continuous improvement) for her child so she gets better. Result is a better child.
But at times the pressure she builds around herself (which is the result of people’s judgement) to be perfect is so high and child becomes a victim to that. She needs correction there too.