Automate their life if you want to help some one or if someone really matters to you.They shouldn’t need you anytime. That’s the best way of doing good to anyone. If you don’t automate, they will need you always. And that would be the most selfish gesture in helping someone. Eventually, inspite your efforts, you will not have achieved a sustained, desired outcome. And all your efforts in improving someone will go waste.
The same applies in raising our children too.
Dont build a path for them, build them to walk any path they chose to.
It also applies to your spouse.Life is so uncertain. Reduce their dependencies on you.
Bind your spouse by love not by creating a dependency and need for everything they will require to lead a comfortable and dignified life.