Irony of wise and experienced minds…

We earn all our life, spend a bomb on our child to educate him and aim at getting him into the best of the company for a great career. We take pride in saying our son/daughter is working in MNC/ UK, US etc..,  with a handsome salary and good life. And then we want him/her to feel guilty of not caring for us, not giving us time and not being by our side or not visiting us often. We are reluctant to stay along with him/her in the place he/ she is working because our adapt abilities in new place, new people are poor with growing age.

Why so much conflict on the mind? Why gather sympathy from our peers that our children have ditched us? Do we ever raise our child to live on our earnings and property and to just take care of us. If so, why educate them, why give them a dream. In today’s world where 1/3rd of life goes in travelling, 1/3rd in discharging duties towards  spouse and children and more than 1/2 of the life in job and career which was/is a joint dream of us and our children, should we complain about petty things and hold our children back from progressing?

We learnt to operate mobile, Whats app, Facebook, Instagram with a flick of the eyelid. But we are reluctant to use big basket, swiggy, Ola, Mediassist for our essentials. We want our child to help us with all of it. Why such selective ignorance? Just to seek attention from our child and reassurance that they love us? 


Life has got difficult for our children compared to what it used to be for us. In spite of technology, better communication modes, better facilities, we have made life worse for them by putting the biggest hurdles called ‘ COMPETITION’, ‘ ‘PEER PRESSURE’ on their mind. We have set the racing track while we sit at the bay and complain about our petty needs and wishes which we never prioritized when the race began. Now when they are in different laps of the race of life, we wish to say co-exist in two places in the most justifiable way. In the race following the dynamics of the race and paralleled along with us on a lazy note hearing and addressing our petty issues, our needs, greed, our false notions , glorified assumed intentions about relatives and friends.

-Sucheta Gour

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