Adolescence has become a dangerous phase for parents. You can be the best parent and still be wrong without knowing where you went wrong.

Adolescence has become a dangerous phase for parents. You can be the best parent and still be wrong without knowing where you went wrong.
Who is at fault?
Who should decide?
The parent or the child?
If parents decide and go with their understanding, the child finds them wrong.
If the child decides, then anyways, parents are wrong.
If no one decides, still with the current trend, the child doesn’t count on his parents and feels he is alone.

Thanks to social media, which is forcing children into creating an identity of their own ….very different from their parents at an early age. Bear the pressure of the opinions of peers and unknown people about the created status. And finally get into depression, distress, or commit suicide. Social media is giving the children unwanted importance, and they are building a wall of prejudice for themself.
And then parents are left with only regrets and questions which have possible illogical reasons.
Children are smart, intelligent today but only in bits and pieces. They can speak but no holistic approach to life. Most of the children today have social media as their parents. And with all their borrowed wisdom from Social media only in words, we feel they are better than us.

We feared what our parents would say. They fear what will the virtual world and their friends say.
Our generation also was conscious of their image among their peers but was strong enough to overcome it.
We were better. Generally, we never dared to create a situation for parents anytime to regret despite being right at times.
We were confused, but we knew our parents could decide the best for us. We were impulsive, but we respected our parents to the extent of subduing our impulsiveness.
We got so many blastings, whether right or wrong and still, we felt there is a long way to go…to learn to improve throughout our lives. Turning out to be right was a never-ending process, but today’s children think they are correct, and parents are wrong from the beginning – from childhood and not even adolescence.

They are so keen on justifying with a dominance that parents are wrong and they are right. They see a glimpse of others’ families -a perfect picture visible superficially or partially and feel everything is wrong at their own home or with them..comparisons are partial pictures with complete pictures. This picture will be shown to anyone by all with some hidden realities. How can they match?

Formal education on Social media for a defined tenure is a must for children today. The more we delay or ignore, the more disasters. We need to teach children life skills and how to apply their minds spontaneously than referring google for anything simple thing or complicated thing too. For instance, if a kite is stuck in a tree, to remove it, they will want to google it out. Online games are the only games they know. Insta is the only time pass they have. More the followers, the more the pressure to keep up your public image. Texting on Insta is the single communication mode they know. We have to teach them not to be carried with the opinions on social media.


Time to build a child’s mental and emotional health. We have to pull our kids out of this sooner. It’s every parent and society’s responsibility.

-Sucheta Gour

Every parent has a feeling, whatever earned by me belongs to my child. How about earning blessings directly from Him, unfiltered, unaltered?

Its better not to give any property or immovable assets to our children. The claims that come in when you are gone are unimaginable. Its like leaving behind a bunch of enemies in the disguise of relatives. Fighting your own kith and kin is a great heartache. Additionally the battle you have to put up for years keep you exhausted on your time, emotions and energy.

And above all, is such a fight worth it? An other fear is what if your child doesnt achieve anything by himself on his own capabilities. By giving him a secured feeling of having property arent we giving him an option to be lazy and not work hard. Are we raising our children to carry only our identity or build their own? Are we selfish than being sensible?
Now speaking of securing their education and livelihood cost till the completion of their education. That is the only earning we need to save and transfer to our kid.

Why not give your children best of the education, teach them the best ways of life which would help them earn and enjoy more than what you could give them.

Additionally, we could leave behind so much in surplus for the society. The lower rung of the society which can even be benefited by 1/5th of the property left behind will be grateful. And if they aren’t grateful also, isnt someone else keeping the account of our good and bad deeds?

Every parent has a feeling, whatever earned by me belongs to my child. All of us can earn money for our children. How about earning blessings directly from Him, unfiltered, unaltered?

-Sucheta Gour

Covid 19

Covid virus

Health threat
Economy slow down threat
Life threat
The world has turned out to be one city being affected by a pandemic like this. Also giving us realizations, no matter how divided we are by continents, countries, cities, race, language, community, culture, religion, colour…. we are all living in the same circle drawn around us by God.

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Our problems are one and we respond similarly to situations.
So eventually
What do we do?
Stay composed
Stay positive
Build your immunity
Exercise
Eat well
Stay contented
Thank God for not being infected.
And hope for the best with a smile and positivity.
Don’t stop living.
Because living is hoping.
And hope never dies till last breath.
Living with the fear of face and mind is no living.
Smile and positivity bring happiness back.
Just live with some basic necessary precautions.
We complained all our life saying we never get time to rest.
So here is all the time for you to rest.
No traffic
No hectic schedules
No deadlines
No meetings
No targets
Family time
Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner on time
Work-Life sorted
Hopefully, this chaos will bring us the realization of how important and satisfying it is to be where we are.
And we humans a social being can’t be normal without social interaction.

-Sucheta Gour

Parents choose Importance b/w children’s necessities or luxuries

For few parents, their children’s necessities are more important than their luxuries And for few more their luxuries are more important than their children’s necessities. Balancing is of significance.

Parents choose Importance b/w children's necessities or luxuries

Understanding Life, Identity & Feelings by Yourself

All I understood till now in my life was that you got to keep yourself exhaustively busy with constructive and some result-oriented work.

Understanding Life, Identity & Feelings by Yourself & Others
Else you end up peeping into others life more or bothering others to an extent of causing nuisance or reading between words and not lines alone or living others life losing your own identity.
Of course, as a mother/father you got to live your child’s life and as a wife you need to live your husband’s life. But there has to be a thin, definite line to define the extent of losing yourself.

                                                                                  -Sucheta Gour

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Wise Quotes about Parenting and its Phases

Parenting, the only subject where a parent gives exams every moment and never gives himself 100/100. Yet generation to generation we feel our parents were better than us as a parent.

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As a parent every parent carries guilt when they grow older and recollect their smallest mistakes in parenting.

What a humble beings?
And as a child the child carries complaints about their parents till they grow up to be parents too.

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What a late realization?

How phases of life make us thankless beings, ignorant beings and humble beings as we progress and all just in one life.

-Sucheta Gour

Parenting Quotes for perfect parenting

I always felt no one will get judgmental about a mother’s upbringing or approach towards her children. Because a mother is always considered to be right about what she decides for her children and the way she executes those decisions. But that’s not true and need not be true either.

When people get judgmental about someone, the impact on the person is in two ways, either you try to get better or you give up.

And a mother is always willing to implement and re-implement kaizen (continuous improvement) for her child so she gets better. Result is a better child.

But at times the pressure she builds around herself (which is the result of people’s judgement) to be perfect is so high and child becomes a victim to that. She needs correction there too.

-Sucheta Gour

Parents Saying and Quotes | Top 10 Parenting Quotes

We can’t expect the whole world of youngsters to take a round about or rewind and live the way our childhood was or like our how our approach and life was. But definitely, like organic food, we don’t want our old ways of life to be sold in new packets branded, presented, marketed and sold at an exorbitant price back to our children like mango pulp, potato wafers, desiroti- veggie rolls, cow’s ghee and many more….

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  • I wouldn’t be surprised if some day mobile apps and games are developed to teach our children ….mannerism, respect, right attitude and many ways of life which came to us as our culture in natural ways. And these apps would be charged and the youth would find it a matter of pride to install them and just having them would certify them to be carrying all the traits.

Motivational-Quotes

  • The future children would ask one day how am I to know that I should respect elders or do my own bed?
  • Or how am I to figure out what is the meaning of right attitude?

Children Quotes

  • Please tell me the difference between ego and confidence
  • What are the advises I should agree from my parents? And what I shouldn’t? Because I know my parents aren’t always right.

Inspirational Quotes

So focus on parenting to teach them as well as learn from them, align them as well as align to them. Let it be a two way interaction but with a wiser ‘US’ as parents. And also carry the confidence and explaining wisdom for why they should listen to us. Understanding values and adhering to them should be a way of life with no other option and without deliberation.

-Sucheta Gour

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Top 10 Inspirational Parenting Quotes | Saying to be a Fantastic Parents

I might not have obeyed my parents when they instructed me, but I will preach the same to my child which I heard from my parents when I was young. That explains that wisdom dawned on me late, but when advised during my immature stages, I preferred to be unreasonable, adamant and revolutionary towards the advises and guidance I received.

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I failed to have the courtesy to accept the guidance which was to make a better me. I wanted demonstrations at the cost of doing trial with my own life. And thereon when I realize my mistakes I took the same course of action my parents did-advising my child.

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So, my TAT to self-realization was almost 20 years – from my adolescence to my child’s adolescence. But again i didn’t wanted to be humble or guilty because of my ignorance and wrong attitude during my time at the receiving end.

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Now that my child is in my shoes and I in my parents’ I’m convinced of the fact that what goes around comes around too. Isn’t it better to correct ourselves in time than correct our children after having had the demos in our life.

-Sucheta Gour

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Top 10 Quotes to be a Perfect Parents | Criteria and Eligibility

Is the attaining of an age criteria for owning things or they need to be earned and you ought to deserve it?

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I see a 5th standard boy demanding for a bicycle, a 7th standard child asking for a playstation or monthly pocket money, a 9th standard adolescent asking for an iPhone, a 12th standard boy asking for a bike.

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And why do they feel they need them?

Just because they are of the age, it is a need and all their friends have it.

Now if we give a justification that we didn’t had these luxuries it doesn’t justify as it reflects many of today’s basic necessities which were at our times super dooper luxuries.

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But if we have to give them any of these, do they deserve them, have they played their part to earn them from us or do they intend to use any of them for their growth or better living?

Let us analyse better. Our analysis and control creates a sense of responsibility and also pushes the child to put in his genuine efforts to make himself worthy for gaining things and just not put a demand for the sake of it.

-Sucheta Gour

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