Health threat Economy slow down threat Life threat The world has turned out to be one city being affected by a pandemic like this. Also giving us realizations, no matter how divided we are by continents, countries, cities, race, language, community, culture, religion, colour…. we are all living in the same circle drawn around us by God.
Our problems are one and we respond similarly to situations. So eventually What do we do? Stay composed Stay positive Build your immunity Exercise Eat well Stay contented Thank God for not being infected. And hope for the best with a smile and positivity. Don’t stop living. Because living is hoping. And hope never dies till last breath. Living with the fear of face and mind is no living. Smile and positivity bring happiness back. Just live with some basic necessary precautions. We complained all our life saying we never get time to rest. So here is all the time for you to rest. No traffic No hectic schedules No deadlines No meetings No targets Family time Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner on time Work-Life sorted Hopefully, this chaos will bring us the realization of how important and satisfying it is to be where we are. And we humans a social being can’t be normal without social interaction.
All I understood till now in my life was that you got to keep yourself exhaustively busy with constructive and some result-oriented work.
Else you end up peeping into others life more or bothering others to an extent of causing nuisance or reading between words and not lines alone or living others life losing your own identity.
Of course, as a mother/father you got to live your child’s life and as a wife you need to live your husband’s life. But there has to be a thin, definite line to define the extent of losing yourself.
I always felt no one will get judgmental about a mother’s upbringing or approach towards her children. Because a mother is always considered to be right about what she decides for her children and the way she executes those decisions. But that’s not true and need not be true either.
When people get judgmental about someone, the impact on the person is in two ways, either you try to get better or you give up.
And a mother is always willing to implement and re-implement kaizen (continuous improvement) for her child so she gets better. Result is a better child.
But at times the pressure she builds around herself (which is the result of people’s judgement) to be perfect is so high and child becomes a victim to that. She needs correction there too.
We can’t expect the whole world of youngsters to take a round about or rewind and live the way our childhood was or like our how our approach and life was. But definitely, like organic food, we don’t want our old ways of life to be sold in new packets branded, presented, marketed and sold at an exorbitant price back to our children like mango pulp, potato wafers, desiroti- veggie rolls, cow’s ghee and many more….
I wouldn’t be surprised if some day mobile apps and games are developed to teach our children ….mannerism, respect, right attitude and many ways of life which came to us as our culture in natural ways. And these apps would be charged and the youth would find it a matter of pride to install them and just having them would certify them to be carrying all the traits.
The future children would ask one day how am I to know that I should respect elders or do my own bed?
Or how am I to figure out what is the meaning of right attitude?
Please tell me the difference between ego and confidence
What are the advises I should agree from my parents? And what I shouldn’t? Because I know my parents aren’t always right.
So focus on parenting to teach them as well as learn from them, align them as well as align to them. Let it be a two way interaction but with a wiser ‘US’ as parents. And also carry the confidence and explaining wisdom for why they should listen to us. Understanding values and adhering to them should be a way of life with no other option and without deliberation.
I might not have obeyed my parents when they instructed me, but I will preach the same to my child which I heard from my parents when I was young. That explains that wisdom dawned on me late, but when advised during my immature stages, I preferred to be unreasonable, adamant and revolutionary towards the advises and guidance I received.
I failed to have the courtesy to accept the guidance which was to make a better me. I wanted demonstrations at the cost of doing trial with my own life. And thereon when I realize my mistakes I took the same course of action my parents did-advising my child.
So, my TAT to self-realization was almost 20 years – from my adolescence to my child’s adolescence. But again i didn’t wanted to be humble or guilty because of my ignorance and wrong attitude during my time at the receiving end.
Now that my child is in my shoes and I in my parents’ I’m convinced of the fact that what goes around comes around too. Isn’t it better to correct ourselves in time than correct our children after having had the demos in our life.
Is the attaining of an age criteria for owning things or they need to be earned and you ought to deserve it?
I see a 5th standard boy demanding for a bicycle, a 7th standard child asking for a playstation or monthly pocket money, a 9th standard adolescent asking for an iPhone, a 12th standard boy asking for a bike.
And why do they feel they need them?
Just because they are of the age, it is a need and all their friends have it.
Now if we give a justification that we didn’t had these luxuries it doesn’t justify as it reflects many of today’s basic necessities which were at our times super dooper luxuries.
But if we have to give them any of these, do they deserve them, have they played their part to earn them from us or do they intend to use any of them for their growth or better living?
Let us analyse better. Our analysis and control creates a sense of responsibility and also pushes the child to put in his genuine efforts to make himself worthy for gaining things and just not put a demand for the sake of it.