Automate their life if you want to help some one or if someone really matters to you.They shouldn’t need you anytime. That’s the best way of doing good to anyone. If you don’t automate, they will need you always. And that would be the most selfish gesture in helping someone. Eventually, inspite your efforts, you will not have achieved a sustained, desired outcome. And all your efforts in improving someone will go waste. The same applies in raising our children too. Dont build a path for them, build them to walk any path they chose to. It also applies to your spouse.Life is so uncertain. Reduce their dependencies on you. Bind your spouse by love not by creating a dependency and need for everything they will require to lead a comfortable and dignified life.
Unity in diversity Sacrifices to the extent of infinity Hardwork Commitment Integrity Discipline Leadership Obedience Focus Country over life Motivation Team work Toughness in the toughest terrains
These soldiers have emerged from all kind of societies and class of our country and have leveled up to one platform with almost same standards in all the above characteristics. Can we learn atleast 10% and implement 5%. Life will be well lived.
Strong women face depression not because they aren’t wanted by anyone. They are very important and effective in all lives associated with them. They can make a difference to even 1000 lives they associate with. But they feel lonely because, they are not wanted by anyone to be loved or cared. But only to love and care for others.
Why she isn’t loved?
Many people assume she doesn’t need to be loved because she already have many who love and care for her. Or few assume that she is so strong and practical, that she doesn’t value emotions at all.
Is it beneficiary to be strong or is it better to be timid and dependent?
I would still say strong, because a life with favours ,sympathy from others in the name of love which people will one day drown you in the debt of gratitude and drive you weaker emotionally is not worth it. And no one can shield you and prioritise you forever.
There is a statement, ‘Fake it before you make it’. And if a life faking strength makes you so powerful from within, then why not? Eventually you get used to live a life full of contentment that you are self made and you do not need support. Expectations make you sad. A shoulder always makes you weaker. A giver is always contended. What best can happen to you than to be in a place not to receive from people but from God Himself. Invaluable Blessings for all the good you’ve done and stood by all.
One who will be obediently listening and following his parents’ instructions. One who will not eat junk food One who will score 100/100 in all his subjects. One who will follow hygiene, take care of his room and his belongings with utmost care. One who will wake up early in the morning and not be a night owl. One who will not be on games app , play-station, Netflix, television and Instagram. One who will not waste his parents money. One who will marry a girl or boy of parent’s choice One who will earn a lot of money. One who will not go around freaking with his friends. One who wont argue or disrespect his parents
One who will purse the career expectations set by parents and be successful. One who will not be sticking on to gadgets always. One who will be good in sports. One who will be creative. One who will actually respect his parents and not show pretense. One who is empathetic about the genuine people around. So on and so forth……
World has changed. All relations are turning out to be too practical or relations for need. Emotions are carried and portrayed in different ways. Today’s child is more a friend than a daughter or son. And the dynamics of approach of children towards their parents are totally different. So, give your child the responsibility of being a responsible and good human being.But at same time do not make him an emotional fool, weak minded, depended, less confident by over protecting or over caring.
The definition of a perfect child changes with time.Keep the basics intact and modify the outlook of approach and reciprocation towards your child’s actions . Keep your child grounded, hardworking and to be considerate.
I’m one among the most strongest women, but I’m not competing or claim equality with men.
I’ve come across men with immense patience and caring behavior. They aren’t carrying any superiority complex or aren’t competing with women.
Every area has the creamy layer of people and the rest are vanilla crowd. So individuals are valued based on their personalities. Personality traits cannot be labelled with any particular gender alone.
House wife By default every house-wife is her last priority. Family comes above herself the reason for she being a perfect mother and wife. And the family gives instances of a working woman despising her selflessness. She is different only in one way. She made her choices to prioritize others above herself. She never lacked skill but the will to prioritize herself. She worked relentlessly for her family. If she starts prioritizing only herself,0 the balance in the family is lost.So finally should she prioritize herself or should the family prioritize her?
Working woman She has to balance either ways. Prioritize herself and take care of family too. But she can expect. She has her space.She is contented with the success, appreciation and money. She possess confidence and attitude too. But she has different set of challenges. She has too many fronts to manage. She is always guilty about falling short in one of her roles at any given point of time. However both chase perfection in every role of theirs and mostly get disappointed by the reciprocation she gets in return.But never gives up on herself or people. Hats off to the woman in your lives.
• No one gets to live a perfect life, a perfect relation. • Desire is the cause of misery. • Be happy with your lives. • Expectations ruin relations.
80% of Indian women have taken these statements so seriously that they eventually have landed up in a compromise of highest level with their lives. They’ve sacrificed themselves in the name of integrity, responsibility, family dignity, commitment and society. Their confidence levels are so low that, their expectations have reduced to food, shelter, clothing and a man’s protection in the society. They dont know how normal relations and a happy life would be. Their identities are either as a wife, mother or daughter. They dont exist as human beings in the first place with emotions and individual thoughts or ideologies. Their cant be a differentiation between a machine and them.
If they object or try to correct or keep expectations, they are treated like anti-social elements of the society or revolutionists. Wishing their own happiness, thinking of having their wish list also is beyond their imaginations. Whereas on the other hand, Men can have expectations from their wives throughout their lives. Women have to be instrumental in every way to satisfy his wish list either directly or indirectly. And inspite of her contribution in the man’s success, she is not credited with even due respect for her existence on the earth. This is where we stand as a society. India is an agricultural and labour force – focus country. And this is how, women are placed in both these areas.
Poor or middle class family kids have only one medium to earn respect, popularity and money…so they resort to education. Rich kids have money, luxuries and borrowed identity from their parents which brings them respect under the umbrella of their family name or parent’s authority in society. There isn’t any rejection or despising which they face. They don’t come across a reason to drive them to rise above where they are. They feel, they are already on the top.
They are exposed to our discussions about practically every aspect.
As parents, we should know, how much and when the child deserves something. How it should be given? We should teach them, how to accept their status and richness? How much to carry of it at any given point of time? We ought to chose what we should filter out before giving to our child so that they do not develop the overconfidence and misuse our success to their opportunity.
Raise children with right and clear expectation about parents, life and people around. Else we give them so contented a life, that, they do not yearn for anything from their life. A contented life beyond necessity doesn’t take us even a step ahead.
‘S/He will be there for me’ is a great feeling than ‘S/He doesnt have a choice than be with me’ or why should S/He need anything, when my presence in her/his life is enough.
No.. its not enough, you got to prove that you are worthy of the other by trying to know him/her, help him/ her , share his/her problems and tasks, value his/her caring and respect him/her. We take our spouse for granted. Thats the point when relation starts disintegrating.
Differentiate the two feelings well. And adopt the right feeling. Else choices can always be made by individuals at any point in life. Though it might end up harming both ends. S/He can make choices otherwise if S/He has had the courage to suffer in silence.
Do not provoke the calm, settled emotions of a person to the extent of creating imbalance in both the lives. Harmony in a relation is the result of efforts from both the partners in a relation.
Care to be cared. Respect to be respected. Love to be loved….