Pain humbles you or pain makes you arrogant and insensitive.

Pain humbles you or pain makes you arrogant and insensitive. Choice is ours.
It humbles you because you feel the pain of others. You are empathetic towards others.
You grow arrogant because you feel you are a victim to pain.

-Sucheta Gour

90% of the crowd on social media prove that social status is so important

90% of the crowd on social media prove that social status is so important. They are attention seeking, concerned about how they are envisaged by others. 5% are the ones who feed the need of 90% and another 5% are there for serious business to make advantage of the medium itself for a constructive reason. Where do you belong?

-Sucheta Gour

Greatest problem of today’s youth “BREAK UPS”

Greatest problem of today’s youth
BREAK UPS
Breakups are mourned worse than death.
They are glorified more than life itself. They are portrayed to an extent of having lost the purpose of life. 
If you were so important for the other person how could they imagine a life without you. And if they found other priorities why are you wasting your time , life and focus for them.
Some one said ones, “if you love something let it go, if its back to you, its yours and if it doesnt, then it was never yours.” And this holds good even till date.

I fail to understand one thing strongly.
Is it that  you are missing the person genuinely or you are enraged by the rejection and the ego is hurt. And if all this is true, will you  live a life of isolation mourning for the person forever. If no, then why cant you learn  to move out of the phase faster and focus on real important things of life.
Its seems like the youth needs classes on ” Moving on without harming your life”.What a tragedy? The so called adults need to be taught basic wisdom. Or should I say they need to be taught, how important they are for themselves and for those to whom they matter, their parents, or their family.And how can there be any reason be bigger enough to deny or ignore this fact.

You carry your pain on your sleeve and miss out all the best things of life.You turn out to be an introvert or an extrovert. You start taking the other gender lightly or you are extremely cautious. Why have these extremes when all this is utter waste of time. Nothing constructive or productive but only carrying the burden and stink of rotten potatoes.
It doesnt just end their, there is still a long story to it. Whole of your social media is flooded with posts of frustration and dejection.Why do you want to blow a beugle and proclaim to the world that someone didnt find you worthy enough. Or they could’nt tolerate you for what you are. Or probably you want to gain sympathy from people to feel better that the other one is at fault and not you.
Why make self so vulnerable that you are hurt to an extent of losing your own precious self. Its OK to lose some people in the life’s journey. Specially the ones who were not  made for you or you werent made for them. Nature maintains its balance well.
Do we ever mourn our parents death for months and years? We dont and if we dont, no one else can be more important before even proving a strong bonding for years.

Oh, how I wish, I would have had a break up and shown people, how else it could be dealt with. But, Alas, not been lucky enough or should I say have been lucky enough to give importance to self.

Loads can be written and discussed based on observations. Is it even worth it to value self less than a person who dumped you.

-Sucheta Gour

Seeing beyond visibility is the main trait of a visionary.

Seeing beyond visibility is the main trait of a visionary.

Do you ever give an explanation?

Do you ever give an explanation?
When we give explanation to others, are we actually giving an explanation to them? No we arent. We are actually explaining to ourselves because we are not able to carry the guilt ourselves and we are justifying our own conscience.

-Sucheta Gour

Try to improvise lives of our near and dear ones with the feedback you receive from others.

There are many Mantharas of Ramayan to poison your mind. But dont try to become Kaikeyi and create Ramayan.
We always hear people poisoning minds against friends, relatives, parents or spouse.How strong a personality we are can create balance in the relationships. No lives are alike. All are different.Try to improvise lives of our near and dear ones with the feedback you receive from others.  Alongside teach your dear ones to take the feedback positively too. But, do not punish them.

On the other side, do not become Dhratarashtra of Mahabharata and be the reason for the destruction of your near and dear ones. Only you can correct them. Rest of the world will only pass a comment, make fun of them, make advantage of their weakness or lead them to further ruins. If you genuinely care for them, keep your efforts on and on in making them better with time.

-Sucheta Gour

God and life hurt less, People hurt more. God and life chose us

God and life hurt less, People hurt more Because we chose them over the other two. God and life chose us. We hurt God and Life more. So you know where it all comes from…..EXPECTATIONS.

-Sucheta Gour

Life would have been enormously boring without Challenges.

Dear Challenge,
I love you for being there with me all my life.I wonder what would I do without you. I just can’t imagine a life without you. You added spice to my life.You made my life worth living twice. Life would have been enormously boring without you.


Every morning I wake up to see you preparing me for a newer and tougher one. Everytime I win over you, I cherish the spirit of winning and look up at myself for being better than yesterday. I see you relentlessly working towards making me stronger with time. I haven’t seen anyone being so sustainable as you are.
Every time you come in a different avatar and keep me amused always.I can never get bugged up with you because you are never the same.
I also thank you from the bottom of my heart for losing to me ‘n’ number of times but still pursuing me. Anyone would have given up on me after so many defeats but you never did.
You motivate me to keep the sense of persistence like how you do. I learn so much from you for free without having paid a single penny to you. You are a sweetheart. Want you with me till the end of my life. Love you the most.
Proud to be simultaneously at war and in love with you….

-Sucheta Gour

Words are just words – baseless and empty.

Emotions and words are deeply connected. Without emotions, words do not mean much. Words are just words – baseless and empty. The conviction with which they are carried out gives them strength and meaning.

-Pratham Lingadalli

Getting independent to an extent of not needing any relation is creating all the confusion and trauma in relationships.

We have people in our lives because we need them – Emotionally, Socially, Financially and Physically. Getting independent to an extent of not needing any relation is creating all the confusion and trauma in relationships. So nourish the dependencies also in a relationship.Then they will add the essence to your lives. Else you will start chasing unwanted people with unknown relationship goals.

-Sucheta Gour