To learn from our Army……

To learn from our Army……

Unity in diversity
Sacrifices to the extent of infinity
Country over life
Team work
Toughness in the toughest terrains

These soldiers have emerged from all kind of societies and class of our country and have leveled up to one platform with almost same standards in all the above characteristics.
Can we learn atleast 10% and implement 5%.
Life will be well lived.

-Sucheta Gour

What have you learnt or how have these interactions made a difference to you?

Many of them do things for show off…
I’ve read the book
I’ve seen that series
I’ve met that great personality

What have you learnt or how have these interactions made a difference to you?

Oh, I just have one more point to boast about having done all these.

No value addition from the knowledge in the book.
No wisdom developed out of having watched the series.
No motivation to learn from great personalities.
If we reduce the gap between how things are visualised, absorbed and implemented by us, we turn out to be our greatest teacher.

Are we going to change our approach anytime sooner?

-Sucheta Gour

Why she isn’t loved? Is it beneficiary to be strong or is it better to be timid and dependent?

Strong women face depression not because they aren’t wanted by anyone. They are very important and effective in all lives associated with them. They can make a difference to even 1000 lives they associate with.
But they feel lonely because, they are not wanted by anyone to be loved or cared. But only to love and care for others.

Why she isn’t loved?

Many people assume she doesn’t need to be loved because she already have many who love and care for her.
Or few assume that she is so strong and practical, that she doesn’t value emotions at all.

Is it beneficiary to be strong or is it better to be timid and dependent?

I would still say strong, because a life with favours ,sympathy from others in the name of love which people will one day drown you in the debt of gratitude and drive you weaker emotionally is not worth it. And no one can shield  you and prioritise you forever.

There is a statement, ‘Fake it before you make it’. And if a life faking strength makes you so powerful from within, then why not? Eventually you get used to live a life full of contentment that you are self made and you do not need support. Expectations make you sad. A shoulder always makes you weaker. A giver is always contended.
What best can happen to you than to be in a place not to receive from people but from God Himself. Invaluable Blessings for all the good you’ve done and stood by all.

– Sucheta Gour

Equality of gender, reservation for the downtrodden, but we never wholeheartedly included one God’s creation in it.

Equality of gender, reservation for the downtrodden, but we never wholeheartedly included one God’s creation in it….the LGBT category. Its our greatest failure to not have created a society inclusive of them. They are treated worse than untouchables. Each one of us are responsible for such a scenario.

We find their face, their body language, their voice, their dressing sense….everything about them disgusting. What option do we leave for them than to feel unworthy. But I appreciate their courage in still fighting life and society. A community of a small group compared to the whole population standing together, fighting for each other, having created their own society within this ugly society of ours. Hats off!!!

-Sucheta Gour

There are two types of people who explain more…

There are two types of people who explain more…
1) One who explains more because of the guilt they carry of wrong doing to the other.
2) One who explains more because of the fear of losing your loved one’s trust due to misunderstandings.
Both sound the same. The analysis varies based on the personality of one who is explaining.

-Sucheta Gour

In today’s world most of the times, we have a primary and secondary family.

In today’s world most of the times, we have a primary and secondary family.
A primary family before marriage are parents and siblings who become your secondary family after marriage. Because your primary family then, are your spouse and children. After your children grow up, the same primary family is restricted to you and your spouse only.
Family is one social institution where you can be yourself, expect other members to be themselves. You laugh, you cry, you show your anger, frustration, contentment to the members of the family. You care and are cared when you need them or vice versa.
You have all your right on them and they also in turn. The members aren’t perfect but they are there for you whether they like it or not because you all are sailing in the same ship.  And you are destined to be going through the same storm or calm waters as other family members atleast for the time you are together.
At times you balance out the odds, conceal  ones grief with other’s happiness.

There are people who do not want to believe in family, do not intend to have one or value one if they have.
Reasons are many…..
Their family isn’t having the perfect family members.
They have seen people struggling with compatibility issues with spouses.
They feel children are too big a responsibility
Or children have discipline issues.
They’ve had bad marriages in the past or seen some.
Spouse or Parents are too demanding..
With all odds, we need to deal with all these improvising our skills , building acceptance to all and still have and value atleast a primary family.

-Sucheta Gour

Blessings don’t excite us. Gifts do.

Blessings – the most cheapest thing to be received by people to whom they don’t mean anything. And the most expensive, invaluable thing to be received from anyone for the people who value them.

Blessings don’t excite us. Gifts do.
But blessings are the one which stand by you, take you ahead, protect you and what not.

When you bow down and seek blessings from elders, you get words from them which really carry the meaning and feelings too. I have never come across a fake blessing till now and I don’t feel they exist. Because, atleast the moment blessings are given, they are sincerely given, the person is moved because you oblige him to bless.

Value blessings though they are only words , for they are your unseen protecting shield, immense and unimaginable strength, strongest wishes for success , fill courage, confidence and positivity

-Sucheta Gour

Men….the first thing coming to the mind is, they are bad.

Men….the first thing coming to the mind is, they are bad. We find a dad , a son or a brother to be always great people. And rest of the world of men to be bad. Why is our perception highly influenced by the standard statements than the reality we see.There is so much glorification on Women’s day. And many men dont even know that their exists a Men’s day. All because, men do not glorify the way women do.They run out of words either to express or glorify. So…. let us join to wish all the men whom we see as father, brother, son, husband, friend

“A Happy Men’s Day to all of you!!! “

-Sucheta Gour

Do we fear efforts or success? Do we resist change or improvement?

Do we fear efforts or success? Efforts
Do we resist change or improvement? Change
But efforts lead to success and change brings in improvement.
Do we ever give a target of 35% to our child in their exam?
Then why do we expect a target of 35% from our Manager.
Or as a Manager why do we want to give a target of 35%

That’s because 90% of the crowd is happy only to do as much as required. They dont want to stretch their limits because they dont want to give in the efforts required for achieving more or gaining more. And the reason given is, if I do more, I’m expected to do much more.What is failed to be understood is, if I do more, I will be equipped with more knowledge. Stretching limits will make them explore their potentials

We arent responsible for others growth, why do we need to go that extra mile to improve our team member. Lot of efforts are required in training and sacrifices in setting examples.

Hesitation.Why will they listen to me? I’m not their parent. The age of being  parented has gone by for my team member. They arent children to be taught with a stick.They arent acers either to the trade they have got in.

Fourth, the management has to set guidelines for performance and measure them.The HR has to raise pip if no performance.Why should I be the bad cop?

Well, we never say why should i be the bad cop for my child.We are never happy when our child cuts corner to achieve something. But we are never bothered when the same things are happening by our team members. Eventually, results are compromised and Managers fill up more junk crowd with less potential, less skill, reluctance to hard work…..any day replaceable by a robot.

-Sucheta Gour

Winning arguments is cheap. Winning hearts is royal.

Winning arguments is cheap.
Winning hearts is royal.

Teach your child to win hearts.
Today’s generation is more keen on proving their point, be it right or wrong.
And they can argue to any extent crossing the line of dignity in doing so.
Adolescence sets up a platform to justify such behaviour too. But if it doesn’t get curbed in time, this awkward behaviour continues to remain with the child creating a sense of over confidence,  superiority complex or inferiority complex hidden with arrogance.

Eventually when he is an adult ,the child reaches a stage where he feels he can get away with any argument just by overpowering the other and not developing wisdom by being a good listener. This leads to limitation of knowledge and unacceptance by others.

-Sucheta Gour