What is the cost of Compromise? Is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?

Compromise

What is the extent of applying this word?
It spans from the right end to the wrong end.
We see people compromising to the extent of making their lives miserable.On the other hand even the slightest discomfort is called the greatest compromise.
And this scenario is is in multiple stages or areas with different people in life.
It can be in relations like a Boss – Team member, Company – Employee, Husband – Wife, Parent – Child, Between Siblings, Peers or Neighbors too. Who will define the minimum,  extreme or intolerable threshold?
In what scenarios, the definition will hold good? At times it gets limited to what someone can tolerate. In that case, is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?


Every relation demands compromise.There are multiple aspects to carry on mind when the tolerance limit needs to be set.
Compromise for the good of the relation, family, Organization, and an amicable living but within the limits of standard levels of compromise and not beyond the level of tolerance.

-Sucheta Gour

Contentment is missing in any relation. No one is keen on turning out the grass greener.

Relations have turned out to be puzzles because we neither have a limitation or knowledge as to what to expect from them. Contentment is missing in any relation. Everyone is chasing greener grass in a relation which is always on the other side. No one is keen on turning out the grass greener.

-Sucheta Gour

Moderation with anyone is such a difficult task. Do we know where the line starts and ends?

When you respect people’s limitations or boundaries, they feel you are maintaining distance and being formal. When they ask you to take liberty and own them, they feel you are taking them for granted.
So moderation with anyone is such a difficult task. Do we know where the line starts and ends?
So respect boundaries. At the same time be willing to cross them, if they need you. But never cross the boundary for your benefit.Your relations with others are great till you maintain this limitation for self.

-Sucheta Gour

Intentions are bad but outcome is good. Eventually what happens?

Intentions are bad but outcome is good.

People deny to help you because of so many reasons – distrust about your vision, growth, plan and hardwork, or jealousy- fear that you  might go ahead of them or be successful.

Eventually what happens?

You get stronger. You live with the funda that “You for Yourself”. You work towards chasing your dreams and being successful more ferociously. And the outcome is definitely great.

So people’s negative intentions push you faster towards success. Keep them around.They will motivate you to not lose focus. Their negative propaganda makes you inversely famous.

-Sucheta Gour

Way or phase of life?

Way or phase of life?
I never feel like celebrating or contented after reaching success in any assignment. I ask myself ‘What next?’
I feel life doesn’t have a final destination than death. I enjoy the journey of wisdom I keep gaining in the process of reaching somewhere ahead every time. My hunger for knowledge and passing by different milestones grows intense every hour. I dont like resting after any assignment because I dont feel I’ve travelled enough to rest. I experience immense peace in this state of mind.
I love to keep working hard but not halting enough to enjoy the results. I’m eager to move to the next work.
I don’t know to grieve anything because I’m more on the grateful side towards life.


I don’t or din’t have complains which I could carry for long about anyone because either no one came so close or I din’t expect anything from anyone or I din’t give them the right over me or they din’t stay enough to expect.


I am in a spot where my mind balances out any emotion and adds more towards happiness and contentment in every moment of my life. Sinking into tranquility forever.

– Sucheta Gour

Is being happy a sin? Who gives them the right to decide whether you have to be happy or sad?

Is being happy a sin?
People get judgmental about you.
They count your problems and dispose off your reasons to be happy. Who gives them the right to decide whether you have to be happy or sad?
We hear people saying ,
[  ] he has this problem,
[  ] his son or daughter isn’t successful,
[  ] he isn’t happy about his spouse,
[  ] he has financial problems,
[  ] he is struggling with his career,
[  ] he owes us money,
[  ] he isn’t happy at his job.
How can he be happy?
What should be your reaction?


JUST IGNORE.
You dont need a reason to be happy.
You dont owe your happiness to anyone but ‘YOU’.
Happiness is a state of mind.
There are many more genuine and strong reasons to be happy.
[  ] Problems can be overcome only with a happy mind.
[  ] You are happy because you are blessed with a family.
[  ] Your happiness brings smiles to all the people you care about.
[  ] You get distressed by keeping yourself happy and cheerful.
[  ] You dont know how long you are alive, so celebrate life.
[  ] All your organs are working and you aren’t dependent on anyone. Celebrate your fitness.
[  ] Your mind is peaceful.
[  ] You are a kind hearted good human being with lot of contentment.
  So on and so forth………………..


Stay happy, do not hesitate to show your strength by showing how you can keep yourself happy in the toughest situation. Your happiness might bring a smile on people’s face and give them courage to fight life with a smile. Others sympathies or judgement cannot be a fuel to your life.Your happiness alone is your strength.

-Sucheta Gour

Who is a father? What he means to his child?

Happy Father’s Day!!
Who is a father?
A son’s guide.
A daughter’s world.
An anchor for his children whenever they dodder.
Calm, composed as a river with ocean roaring in his heart.
A ship for his family to sail through the terrifying ocean of life.
Always falls short of words but rich in emotions.
A pillar to cling on, a shelter to feel safe even in the worst of the storms.
So much to say but still fall short of words to say , What he means to his child?

-Sucheta Gour

“People hurt me, fool me, deceive me, so it justifies my hurting, fooling and deceiving the people.”

“People hurt me, fool me, deceive me, so it justifies my hurting, fooling and deceiving the people.” And so the innocent people become victims to such standardised approach of the hurt ones. Ignore the ones that hurt you. There is some one else who is hurting the one who hurt you. Dont try to make it even yourself. Protect the good in you. Work towards channelizing your efforts towards a constructive thought than destroying others.Its a great waste of time and guilt getting added to you as an unwanted baggage.

-Sucheta Gour

Should we set as a goal to achieve only what we see or chase the world beyond visibility.

We advise people to dream big. But we fail to teach them to achieve big and the ingredients required, the sacrifices and compromises to be made, the efforts that go into it.
Secondly, people want realistic goals n targets – conflict of two statements. If targets were easier, were they to be called achievements or goals?  They would just be called assignments.

Ideally, according to the corporate world, set achievable goals. Agreed.
If people thought flying to moon is difficult and impossible, then should they have set it as a goal. If all of us think, goals should be achievable always, then, no limitation would be broken, no records would be created, nothing invented or explored, no success stories, no legends, no heroes and no progress.
Should our mind-block become our limitations? Aren’t we capable of exceeding any expectation, achieving beyond the goal?
Should we set as a goal to achieve only what we see or chase the world beyond visibility.

-Sucheta Gour

Woman are made strong by everyone she has and does come across

Hey Woman!
Care for all, but belong to self.
Uphold everyone’s emotions, but be practical in your head.
Love your family but, expect from none.
Support others, but never give up on making your identity.
Be a giver and never receive.
Laugh, smile all your life, because grieving and mourning isn’t worth it
All the above,


Not a symbol of humbleness, but strength.
And Woman are made strong by everyone she has and does come across.
So when so many contribute in making a woman strong, their efforts are bound to yield.
Here we are, strong as ever.

Not a feminist, but proud of being a woman.

-Sucheta Gour