From inner happiness to the pretense of achievement of having impressed society, peers, and relatives. From spiritual gain to material gain. From compromises and sacrifices for the visible good to integrities and principles for the invisible good. From measurable success to intangible knowledge
Further definition of success changes in every phase of life. From passing an exam to having a girlfriend to grooming yourself for six packs /zero size to getting a job to a huge bank balance to buying a vehicle to buying a house to a wonderful spouse to raising a child to his education to a career of the child to owning and running a successful company to a luxurious lifestyle to a comfortable old age. Did we mention good health, a peaceful mind, and a happy and contented soul? Well… that is something that should be there by default without any deliberations towards having it. So the basic understanding goes something like all the above leads to the final destination, i.e., tranquility. But is it true? Not really. The day it turns out to be vice versa, you focus on health and happiness life is filled with contentment.
Both ‘I’ and ‘WE’ are necessary for a relationship.
It is essential to give importance to ‘I’ to have personal space, preference, and self-pampering to keep your morals high.
When ‘I’ have done it, ‘I’ am not always required to give credit to ‘WE.’ Because that should motivate the other to join as ‘WE’ in the next activity or decision; else, the other will always remain the one who will enjoy the credit of ‘WE’ without doing anything.
‘I’ are two personalities, so ‘I’ should understand the positives and negatives of the other compensating and complimenting each other. Finally, as ‘WE,’ sharing happiness, sorrows, tasks, and respect keeps the balance in life, but it shouldn’t be a burden for any one.
Husbands are over protective not because they do not trust you, but because they dont trust the world outside. They know their kind from the negative side, as well as the society. They end up putting guidelines to you or stalking you all the while because they feel you are too innnocent and can be easily manipulated. The only problem is when most of them do not stand by you and pass derrogatory comments on you because they do not know how to support you with the right words or, how to reveal about the negative kind in their gender. Wives are never satisfied by you not because they expect you to be the best for them but because they do not want their husbands to be looked down upon by anyone on the earth for anything. They can’t accept negative opinion about their husband. They keep complaining about the 0 acceptance husbands have when the advice is from a wife .The only problem is they turn out to be a nagging personality not knowing how to position themself in their husband’s ego and motivation. However should any of them be termed wrong for their intentions. No. But definetely, most of them need to be termed wrong for their approach in explaining the intent. Learn the skill of communicating the intent.
40% of the people end up hurting others with their words not because they intend to but because they do not know the art of communication and on the other side people are superskilled to read between the lines. The other 20% intentionally hurt. Further 20% are cautious with their words to hide their vicious thoughts. And the rest are not at all in the show.
Everything is fair in love and war. The new word added to it is success. It is better to add few more steps to your journey of success than compromising on your fundamentals and everything for success. It is good to be good, better to be tactful and best to be shrewd in life but it is also contentful to be having certain principles in life.
Each of us sympathise and take sides of not the right side or right person but the ones whom we better relate with, who is going to be helpful to us or whom we idolise. Over a period of time we rationalise every wrong action about them and us. We justify every wrong action of such people only because we also have done such mistakes/actions in the past or we like the person because of one/ few of his traits or supporting him becomes just essential for our benefits. Do we term ourself selfish, helpless, biased, blind or hypocrite? Is it possible for us to see ourself from a different, unbiased, uninfluenced view? Or we are just timid minds?
Do not hear what hurts you. Pretend deaf. Do not analyse which isn’t worthy enough. Pretend dumb. Do not believe in anything that triggers your negativity. Pretend ignorant. Do not get angry if its not worth a benefit. Pretend mature. Do not spend your time on unworthy people. Pretend busy.
“World is full of good people”. Its nice to be in a dilemma than see through the reality and bother self always. But, be cautious not to offer yourself to be manipulated while pretending any of the above.
Relations do not affect you, if you do not allow them to.We blame others for hurting us. Do we realise, who is impacting us more? Other’s actions or our own analysis of those actions? Stay close to God and self. No one can hurt you.Believe and understand that everyone have their own reasons, motives, benefits in hurting you. Do not get into the analysis of right or wrong of other’s actions. It’s assured that your being hurt doesnt change them. Their character, personality, thought process or actions need major change which isn’t your agenda of life. Neither it can happen over few days or months. And at times their actions might not be intentional too. So leave people with their thoughts and actions. Justify only yourself to you. Be hurt only when you are wrong. When your actions have hurt God who has sent you to the earth with a belief that you will not be wrong intentionally towards others. Rest all are just your co-passengers in your journey. You hardly judge your co- passengers in any journey because you know you are parting ways sooner or later. You just intend to be good to them and not even the best at the cost of compromising on self.