‘S/He will be there for me’ is a great feeling than ‘S/He doesnt have a choice than be with me’ or why should S/He need anything, when my presence in her/his life is enough.
No.. its not enough, you got to prove that you are worthy of the other by trying to know him/her, help him/ her , share his/her problems and tasks, value his/her caring and respect him/her. We take our spouse for granted. Thats the point when relation starts disintegrating.
Differentiate the two feelings well. And adopt the right feeling. Else choices can always be made by individuals at any point in life. Though it might end up harming both ends. S/He can make choices otherwise if S/He has had the courage to suffer in silence.
Do not provoke the calm, settled emotions of a person to the extent of creating imbalance in both the lives. Harmony in a relation is the result of efforts from both the partners in a relation.
Care to be cared. Respect to be respected. Love to be loved….
You are a Leader. You are born to lead. Challenges are the fuel and Solutions build your confidence.
Leaders carry a basic instinct of being farsighted. Risks make your role necessary and significant in any organization. Most of the decisions are to be made with conviction without having any visibility. The number of intuitions you get right and the accuracy of the solution towards the problems make you an excellent Leader.
The journey to being a Leader is very intimidating. You walk alone. Your focus is unquestionable. Your visibility cannot be reached by most of them. What you see is not even thought of by others. So the acceptance levels are poor. But you not only carry a vision but also compliment it with your efforts and pave a way through the mist.
You carry the crowd along to reach the destination. You build the direction for many who would be lost otherwise. Your mere presence motivates people.
You can never give relaxation to yourself because everyone around you is observing you. You do not have a choice than to lead by example or to be looked down upon by others.
Your journey is unique. You have the courage to be positive throughout the journey. Your journey doesn’t have a final destination. The destination keeps altering every time you reach a milestone.
A problem needs a solution; a solution doesn’t need a solution. You see solutions to every problem even before it arises. You aren’t a victim of any situation. You are a warrior in any situation. Hats off – to every leader of any department, Company, State, and the Country. You make the world worth living twice.
Adolescence has become a dangerous phase for parents. You can be the best parent and still be wrong without knowing where you went wrong. Who is at fault? Who should decide? The parent or the child? If parents decide and go with their understanding, the child finds them wrong. If the child decides, then anyways, parents are wrong. If no one decides, still with the current trend, the child doesn’t count on his parents and feels he is alone.
Thanks to social media, which is forcing children into creating an identity of their own ….very different from their parents at an early age. Bear the pressure of the opinions of peers and unknown people about the created status. And finally get into depression, distress, or commit suicide. Social media is giving the children unwanted importance, and they are building a wall of prejudice for themself. And then parents are left with only regrets and questions which have possible illogical reasons. Children are smart, intelligent today but only in bits and pieces. They can speak but no holistic approach to life. Most of the children today have social media as their parents. And with all their borrowed wisdom from Social media only in words, we feel they are better than us.
We feared what our parents would say. They fear what will the virtual world and their friends say. Our generation also was conscious of their image among their peers but was strong enough to overcome it. We were better. Generally, we never dared to create a situation for parents anytime to regret despite being right at times. We were confused, but we knew our parents could decide the best for us. We were impulsive, but we respected our parents to the extent of subduing our impulsiveness. We got so many blastings, whether right or wrong and still, we felt there is a long way to go…to learn to improve throughout our lives. Turning out to be right was a never-ending process, but today’s children think they are correct, and parents are wrong from the beginning – from childhood and not even adolescence.
They are so keen on justifying with a dominance that parents are wrong and they are right. They see a glimpse of others’ families -a perfect picture visible superficially or partially and feel everything is wrong at their own home or with them..comparisons are partial pictures with complete pictures. This picture will be shown to anyone by all with some hidden realities. How can they match?
Formal education on Social media for a defined tenure is a must for children today. The more we delay or ignore, the more disasters. We need to teach children life skills and how to apply their minds spontaneously than referring google for anything simple thing or complicated thing too. For instance, if a kite is stuck in a tree, to remove it, they will want to google it out. Online games are the only games they know. Insta is the only time pass they have. More the followers, the more the pressure to keep up your public image. Texting on Insta is the single communication mode they know. We have to teach them not to be carried with the opinions on social media.
Time to build a child’s mental and emotional health. We have to pull our kids out of this sooner. It’s every parent and society’s responsibility.
‘Why are you keen on this job?’ “It’s pretty challenging, and I like challenges.”
90% of people fail because they want to face challenges designed by themselves.
Defining a self-designed challenge – The intensity should be just how much they can forego, the magnitude should be as much as they can bear, and the duration should be no more than microseconds. This is the recipe for a challenge.
In that case, have we mistaken challenge to be a sneeze. Because they say your heart skips a beat when you sneeze, it lasts a microsecond, it isn’t caused by you, and no one ever died because of a sneeze. But when you hear that your heart skips a beat, you panic. You feel you’ve reborn after every sneeze.
Well….. the commonly expected answer in an interview for ‘Why are you keen on this job?’ is “It is pretty challenging, and I like challenges.” And when they join an organization, they reason out saying these challenges weren’t expected. Or on the other hand, you want to do all the homework and figure out how fewer challenges are there in the job? How to pass them on to others? How to find reasons and justifications to convert the challenge into an impossible task before the Bosses?
We are surrounded by people with enormous skills and intelligence but trying to convert all of it into a National waste. We are all born smart and physically, mentally equipped to handle situations and challenges. We have done it time and again also in our personal lives. Then why are we finding escapes when our professional life offers challenges.
Today is the time to invite unknown, unexpected, unfabricated Challenges and accept them irrespective of your age, level, and authority. COVID is a colossal example- personally and professionally. Do not glorify challenges. Do not expect challenges to be customized by yourself. Avoiding challenges is avoiding success, opportunities, and avoiding LIFE. EMBRACE CHALLENGES, EMBRACE LIFE
Its better not to give any property or immovable assets to our children. The claims that come in when you are gone are unimaginable. Its like leaving behind a bunch of enemies in the disguise of relatives. Fighting your own kith and kin is a great heartache. Additionally the battle you have to put up for years keep you exhausted on your time, emotions and energy.
And above all, is such a fight worth it? An other fear is what if your child doesnt achieve anything by himself on his own capabilities. By giving him a secured feeling of having property arent we giving him an option to be lazy and not work hard. Are we raising our children to carry only our identity or build their own? Are we selfish than being sensible? Now speaking of securing their education and livelihood cost till the completion of their education. That is the only earning we need to save and transfer to our kid.
Why not give your children best of the education, teach them the best ways of life which would help them earn and enjoy more than what you could give them.
Additionally, we could leave behind so much in surplus for the society. The lower rung of the society which can even be benefited by 1/5th of the property left behind will be grateful. And if they aren’t grateful also, isnt someone else keeping the account of our good and bad deeds?
Every parent has a feeling, whatever earned by me belongs to my child. All of us can earn money for our children. How about earning blessings directly from Him, unfiltered, unaltered?
In COVID, Every decision might have and be sounding wrong from Leaders of Govts and Corporates. But we ought to be thankful for one single thing that, these people had the courage to stand up and to take decisions, see through the misty air and predict with conviction.
Else rest of the crowd only made noise, created havoc, passed wrong information, condemned every decision without coming up with solutions. Leaders have proven their worth. Right or wrong they are going to own it, implement it, if gone wrong, they will stay through it and correct it. They have not been fence seaters. Appreciate, Support, and Glorify them. They deserve it. This would be their motivation.
It means Nothing will be normal like how it used to be earlier. But still we do not have a choice than to adapt and accept. Social life, Professional life nothing will remain the same. Even after vaccination is invented. The impact of Covid 19 on the Economy will take the legacy of Covid 19 ahead for few more years. And thereafter we will find our own old ways of life strange and alien like how now we feel about the lifestyle of 20 years back.
Save the tree to save your nests. Work towards the health of the branches to hold you strong.
People whose jobs are safe to say “If the company survives we survive, the boat will sink if overcrowded, offloading few people is fine to save the rest, Retrenchment of people is not an option, but a necessity to survive “, people who have lost jobs say,” We could have adjusted to pay cuts and more efforts. Plz, allow us to stay.”
Else the trend has been “Oh, it’s difficult to work in this Company. I have a tough time here. I get exhausted working here. The more we work, the more is the expectation. Ignorance is bliss. Carry ignorance and get away with doing more assignments. Everything in the world is more important than taking up more responsibilities at work.”
Very few have had consistency and commitment in what they did pre COVID or post COVID. But even these might have suffered the wrath of the pandemic since the natural disasters don’t differentiate between good or bad, the less committed and more, because the sinners are sinners and the silent audience also are a part of the sin.
But now the safer ones comment on the non safe ones. Such an irony.
Coexisting should be a norm, be it existing with your organization, or existing with your colleagues. Support them by accepting pay cuts, or more efforts at work or empowering your team members. Support people who have lost jobs, emotionally by helping them take up voluntary assignments. Build their confidence. Assure them that this will also pass by. We will build a bigger boat to onboard them again. Hold on. But holistically, everyone needs a transformation to undergo now be it the best, the moderate or good. Reinventing self is the only way to survive.