Know people well. But dont behave them just to teach them a lesson or to tackle them well.You take away the difference between them and you, if you behave them. You will lose the essence of YOU.
-Sucheta Gour
‘I taught him a lesson for life so as to not mess with me’. ‘He thought himself to be too great, I’ve brought him on his knees with my tactfulness’. ‘How can he have all the happiness, let me add pain to his life’.
I have brains and I will use them.
Where, how, when, why, how often, for whose good or bad?
No questions to be asked to self. No filters or positive thought process mandatory.
What an irony of owning the most powerful tool – brain. I’m going to use the super power of my brains for the ruins of others. What a glorification of power in the wrong sense. There is this great tact of mind which develops in troubling others and glorifying their disgusting approach.
Why cant the same brain be channelized towards the ‘making of self’ than breaking others? How to make people realize the benefit of channeling your brain power in the right direction? Should there be professional online courses and workshops for this?
-Sucheta Gour
Compromise
What is the extent of applying this word?
It spans from the right end to the wrong end.
We see people compromising to the extent of making their lives miserable.On the other hand even the slightest discomfort is called the greatest compromise.
And this scenario is is in multiple stages or areas with different people in life.
It can be in relations like a Boss – Team member, Company – Employee, Husband – Wife, Parent – Child, Between Siblings, Peers or Neighbors too. Who will define the minimum, extreme or intolerable threshold?
In what scenarios, the definition will hold good? At times it gets limited to what someone can tolerate. In that case, is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?
Every relation demands compromise.There are multiple aspects to carry on mind when the tolerance limit needs to be set.
Compromise for the good of the relation, family, Organization, and an amicable living but within the limits of standard levels of compromise and not beyond the level of tolerance.
-Sucheta Gour
Relations have turned out to be puzzles because we neither have a limitation or knowledge as to what to expect from them. Contentment is missing in any relation. Everyone is chasing greener grass in a relation which is always on the other side. No one is keen on turning out the grass greener.
-Sucheta Gour
When you respect people’s limitations or boundaries, they feel you are maintaining distance and being formal. When they ask you to take liberty and own them, they feel you are taking them for granted.
So moderation with anyone is such a difficult task. Do we know where the line starts and ends?
So respect boundaries. At the same time be willing to cross them, if they need you. But never cross the boundary for your benefit.Your relations with others are great till you maintain this limitation for self.
-Sucheta Gour
Intentions are bad but outcome is good.
People deny to help you because of so many reasons – distrust about your vision, growth, plan and hardwork, or jealousy- fear that you might go ahead of them or be successful.
Eventually what happens?
You get stronger. You live with the funda that “You for Yourself”. You work towards chasing your dreams and being successful more ferociously. And the outcome is definitely great.
So people’s negative intentions push you faster towards success. Keep them around.They will motivate you to not lose focus. Their negative propaganda makes you inversely famous.
-Sucheta Gour
You are a woman, you need to learn to cook. Why? Just because you are a woman. Let us stop relating everything to a gender and gain sympathy. Let us take pride in being the nutritionist and a chef for our family. We cook so that our family gets the best of the food.
Even a man can think accordingly. But women have been more consistent , mindful and better skilled due to the society’s impositions. The prototype will change over a period of time.
But whoever is cooking owns the responsibility of a nutritional food on time all the three times with great taste most of the meals you serve. So keep the gender aside. Cook for you near and dear ones with love.
– Sucheta Gour
Way or phase of life?
I never feel like celebrating or contented after reaching success in any assignment. I ask myself ‘What next?’
I feel life doesn’t have a final destination than death. I enjoy the journey of wisdom I keep gaining in the process of reaching somewhere ahead every time. My hunger for knowledge and passing by different milestones grows intense every hour. I dont like resting after any assignment because I dont feel I’ve travelled enough to rest. I experience immense peace in this state of mind.
I love to keep working hard but not halting enough to enjoy the results. I’m eager to move to the next work.
I don’t know to grieve anything because I’m more on the grateful side towards life.
I don’t or din’t have complains which I could carry for long about anyone because either no one came so close or I din’t expect anything from anyone or I din’t give them the right over me or they din’t stay enough to expect.
I am in a spot where my mind balances out any emotion and adds more towards happiness and contentment in every moment of my life. Sinking into tranquility forever.
– Sucheta Gour
For few, looking back and retrospecting on the past events after mid life brings in only frustrations about self and others. Keep looking forward. You’ve been doing it while you were young in your 20s. That’s the only way to fill motivation to push life towards betterment. Do things like there is no second chance. But think like you are going to be here forever. Because that’s when you keep looking forward and give 1000% to everything. Keep self so engaged that your frustration from past does not intersect your mind any day. At the same time remember the past because you have learnt everything from there and the lessons are your guiding light way forward.
We all know our-self and our lives better. First learn to know self without filters and being biased by self. The day we can look into a mirror and analyse and accept what we are, we will start moving ahead.
There can be so many lessons to live and grow.But all of it can be learnt only when we know to apply it on self.
There is never a dead end.Its only an optical illusion like horizon.
Aim at the sky, it is never a wrong time to start.
-Sucheta Gour
It is imperative for us to adapt to whatever challenge life offers. It has been so from the beginning of the world. Why do we want to complain about it today? All that is required is to show how we deal with them. Complaining only delays the process of acceptance and reciprocation to any challenge. Sooner the acceptance, earlier you are prepared for the challenge.
-Sucheta Gour
