Genuine love,
Sensible friends
Contentful job
Functional luxury
Compassionate mind
Helping people
Surrendering to almighty 🙏

Can bring real happiness in life.

But how do we identify we have all these?

Look inward and feel contented about your organs and senses being intact without ailments, job that pays for three meals for you and your family every day , earnings that suffices education to your children, a peaceful place to sleep, someone to speak about your happiness or sorrows ( your parents, spouse, children or friends), smile on people’s face when you meet them, less struggle for the most essential things of life, atleast one laughter a day from the bottom of your heart,
and gratitude for all the above towards the one who has given you all these.

–Sucheta Gour

Life just got so complicated with automated houses, the best of the luxuries, expensive cars, hefty salaries and the most advanced technology. Were the purpose of all the above inventions served? All most every middle class and upper middle class have a house, car and a great job in today’s world. Then, what are we chasing?
The most common answer heard is happiness, time for self, contentment.
Were these the price paid for the above?

+Sucheta Gour

The first question – Struck between luxuries and essentials, What should you spend on?
Second question- Yesterday’s luxuries are today’s essentials, so should we call it luxury or essential?
Now, did the first question get easier or difficult to answer?
Well, to make it easier, if people dont get judgemental and peep into othes’ lives,
If there isn’t any comparison with others’ lives.
If healthy and sensible living is the focus,
If inner soul’s contendetment is the priority,
Essentials can turn out to be luxuries.

– Sucheta Gour

Shrinking expectations with changing generations

The earliest expectations of parents were, their son should be a good human being- belong, contribute and be responsible towards society.

The next set of parents expected their son to take care of their joint family as an integral part, contribute to the family purse, maintain balance and harmony and value the emotions of the family members.

Further generations expected the son to take care of the house- a nuclear family unit with his parents and siblings until they settled down.

Further next generation expected the son of the house to care for his wife and children. Parents were to care only in sickness and old age.

Next, the generations expected the son to only care for his wife and children. Finally, parents learned to care for their own lives with good savings, domestic help, and luxurious old-age homes.

One-tenth of the parents expected a return on investment for raising their children and,
One-tenth of the children blame their parents for not earning enough money or property to give them better luxury.

Why did this happen? Something to truly ponder about…
Did we intend to create big hearts or black hearts?

-Sucheta Gour

I grew up listening to old Hindi songs which often described women’s face when defining or admiring a woman’s beauty. For me, the definition of beauty was concise but still extended to the depth of the soul – An appealing smile with decent features, beautiful eyes, curiosity in those eyes about everything like a child, sincerity in the expressions of the face, a heart that can wish good and believes in the goodness of others, a mind so calm and a soul that is contented from within. I also believe beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
I never realized when the description of a woman’s beauty slipped from her face to everything below her neck.
It took me real long years to realize beauty isn’t what it naturally is but what you deliberately show. The bare skin was more beautiful than a glowing face, prettied up, the body covered from neck to ankle. I wouldn’t blame only ‘Men’ for this. God’s creation, ‘Woman,’ just transformed and evolved their thought process to emphasize external beauty, bare skin color, temporary youthfulness, revealing dress sense, and lustre of the body.

-Sucheta Gour

Blessings and good wishes are the least valued things today. When blessings were invaluable they were genuine. Now that they aren’t valued they arent genuine or is it vice versa.Which one of these is true?
Let us make them invaluable again by genuinely wishing good or blessing whole heartedly. Genuine blessings and good wishes are the most essential things in today’s world as they can really do good to people we love. They cost us nothing but sincerity from us and zero expectation from the ones we bless or wish for. And what do we gain in return?
Lot of blessings from the Almighty which isnt a match for anything else and great contentment as a soul. All this just for a sincere feeling for others.

-Sucheta Gour

We make people so important in our lives. We are only happy when someone else loves us, confident when we get complimented on our beauty by others, contented with success when others acknowledge it. So much dependancy on others’ opinions for living. I wonder whether we ever lived to please ourself ?

–Sucheta Gour

Men
We have a problem if you aren’t there in our lives. And we complain about you when you are in our lives.
We feel secured when you are around us.
We fight, pamper, compete, nag but love you the most as sisters, friends, mothers, daughters and wives. You are from Mars and we are from Venus, but we make our homes together on earth. A love – hate or love – love relationship in different phases of life in all the relations – A journey to cherish. We complete each other. You fill our lives with the most essential colours – black & white.🤣🤣
Thank you for being there for us.
Happy International Men’s day.

–Sucheta Gour

Sympathies limit self exploration of our potentials.
Sympathies are in fashion. Its considered to be humane, sensitive, empathetic when you sympathize someone. We are creating a crowd which is unnecessarily emotional and weak minded with sympathies. They are timid and glorify the simplest of their activities.
No one ever died by working hard. Diseases were mostly the luxuries of rich which they acquired after growing rich.

-Sucheta Gour

Earlier drinking was a taboo now its termed social drinking.
Earlier spending wasnt right today earning more to spend is the right way.
Earlier arguing with parents wasn’t right, today it’s justified that its because of stress and hormonal affect.
Earlier availing loans weren’t commonly acceptible.
Today loans are essential for all and throughout 90% of anyone’s life.
Earlier , the expectation from life style was limiting to our earning.
Today, lifestyle needs correction always to have better luxuries so everyone is running to earn more.
Earlier failing in exams was a crime.
Today failing in exams is aiming beyond a degree. College dropouts will go ahead to become successful tech entrepreneurs is the justification.
Earlier having a girlfriend/boyfriend or love marriages were a taboo.
Today, it is a basic necessity to choose your partner yourself.
Earlier education system imbibed discipline and culture first.
Today, education system focuses on teaching technology and theories alone.
Earlier show off word was missing in everyone’s life and simple living was the way of life.Today, attention seeking is the way to live.
Earlier contentment defined the relations.
Today, discontentment with all has led to many more relations.
Earlier relations were made for emotional need. Today relations are made and maintained for financial gain or social benefit like status, or business or any other thing.
Earlier actions defined feelings. Today words define feeling.

World changed because thought process changed.
Great progress in terms of civilization or is there a ‘U’ turn awaited?

–Sucheta Gour