How bad I can hurt you emotionally with words?

Today’s youth aren’t about actions alone. “How bad I can hurt you emotionally with words”? This is how the skill is gauged. And that’s called carrying attitude.
Is this transformation right or wrong? Required or unnecessary?
Harmful or Favourable?
Are we raising this generation or they are born out of elsewhere?

-Sucheta Gour

Why are dog lovers increasing in numbers? Why are dogs taking the place of your children, spouse, friends or relatives?

Why are dog lovers increasing in numbers? Why are dogs taking the place of your children, spouse, friends or relatives? Because, in relationships, sincereity is reducing and expectations are increasing.
Relations are no more to laugh and cry together. Or feel happy on other’s success and lend shoulder on other’s failures.
Relationships are to see what is your benefit if someone is successful and distance others if they are in pain.

When it comes to dogs, atleast you know they love you sincerely, they aren’t playing mind games to make a bounty out of you, their highest expectations from you is feed them, allow them some place in your house and heart, treat them when they are ill. Nominal and minimalest expectations anyone can have. And in return you get more than what you expect from anyone. Lifetime loyalty, boundless love, togetherness, protection and care always.

-Sucheta Gour

The Perfect Team Member…

Every Manager is on the look out of that person who wont take too many leaves, doesn’t need follow up for every activity, who can understand the pulse of the client, who can meet deadlines without reasons, who believes in every target set by the Company, who will not show tactfulness in managing Manager but the team, who will not do the same mistake twice but does different mistakes everytime and learn from every mistake, who will be open to learn throughout his career, who will belong to the company or team he is working in, who will not involve in office politics,  who will not consider his team just a tool for his own success, but as his companions for the journey to succeed.

Seems like more than what is expected in a bride or groom hunt.
Do you find such people?
No, Managers can raise such people provided the team member believes in the Manager.

-Sucheta Gour

What went wrong???

When you were a child, no one told you ‘Its impossible’
You were required to learn 7 subjects with different logic and approach.
You were supposed to aim at nothing less than 70% marks even as a worst scenario.
You were required to be keen on co-curricular activities too.
You were always compared with the best of all in all the aspects and motivated to chase. Sometimes with a stick or sometimes with a chocolate. Contentment of a parent about the child was a dream.

You had 24 hours to go to school, eat, sleep, play, study, take up your co-curricular activites. You were not so wise to be stressed. And aware that worrying never changed future. What a blessing?

You had peaceful sleep every night.
Your competition was with many and in different aspects.
Competition didn’t demotivate you.
Everything felt like achievable. Whatever you could’nt achieve, you had the courage and confidence to accept your shortfalls on a very positive note that “I didnt work hard, I skipped classes, was more playful but it wasn’t that I was dumb.”

And then we grew up to blame everything other than self. Everything was impossible.
Going to office became a herculian task. Deadlines started giving us sleepless nights. It seemed like we were required to learn and apply rocket science everyday. We weren’t good enough to achieve anything great. We felt survival itself was the greatest achievement.
What went wrong?
We drew lot of boundaries and limitations around our brain. We didn’t have our parents to motivate and say nothing is impossible and you are too good to give reasons or keep us grounded when overconfidence surrounded us.
Now we all know what happened to us.
Can we make an attempt to correct ourselves?

-Sucheta Gour

Reason for the Great Resignation – Humanity to Heal

We hear that the industry is still figuring out why people are leaving.
A few reasons to which they attribute the cause are
• Ease of interviews because of virtual interviews, no possibility to monitor better, which wouldn’t have been the same if people worked from the office. They had to avail leaves for physical interviews.
• Work from the home model, No social life at work. Feeling of being caged.
• Less communication or bonding with the employees, no satisfying employee engagement activities.
• Extended work hours for 12 or 14 hours.
• Asked to work from office post-Covid. Again, pulling employees out of their comfort zone.

In the IT sector, a similar trend was observed in 2008. But there were still many considerations, logic, and visible business decisions. However, during Covid, the meaning of logic had to be redefined.

The greatest factors are

• Promises weren’t met, commitments failed by everyone we trusted- Employers, Managers, and Colleagues
• Security and support for employees and their families were taken away. 
• No Manager could do anything to save jobs. No one knew whether their own jobs were secured enough. Assuring others’ was next to impossible.
• No HR or Management could support medical aid when there was a shortage of beds, ventilators, and vaccines.
• Companies gave no financial aid for Covid. Instead, salaries were deducted.
• Hope that benefits offered by Companies for tomorrow or future consequences felt like a well-thought-off deceit plan.
• The masked truth had broken open to everyone.

Trust was lost…

Covid forced people into the most practical, unmasked, uncertain, nasty, cruel, selfish world.
Adaptability to change and acceptance of the truth that you are alone in this world could have never been better explained in this world.
Even at a family level, we treated our own family members like untouchables; we weren’t willing to die with any of our loved ones.
Few didn’t even perform the last rites of their family members.
The quantum of grief made people resistant to suffering itself.
The bitter truth that money is more important than life for even the medical organizations surfaced.
There was only a handful of Human Gods whom only a few lucky ones could meet.

Suddenly, growing independent, financially strong, and self-sufficient became a mandate.

God was angry, or were we heartless and selfish is a question still to be answered to self.
Could anyone be blamed for everyone’s and our own behaviors too?

Not really,

Psychologies have significantly been affected. Beliefs have shaken or, should I say, stormed.
It will take a really long time for companies to establish the trust again, or the prediction can be that it might never happen. It will take a tremendous amount of work and a great deal of effort, love, and care from every corner and every single person for humanity to heal.

The world is waiting for a reset button though it might make the picture uglier and messed up.
Hope – There has to be light at the end of darkness.

-Sucheta Gour

Let Go & Live Light…

Does anger always mean hatredness?
Not always. If some one is angry with you, doesn’t mean that they hate you.They haven’t liked some action of yours. Denial is good sometimes. And a ‘Sorry’ works bigtime. And the one who is angry, do not confuse your anger with hatredness. Do not exagerrate. Keep the anger limited to the action. All of us can’t behave perfect and please all always. Of course, some personalities are fundamentally worthy of hatredness. But, 90% of them aren’t. So do not carry a baggage. Both got to ‘Live light’.

-Sucheta Gour

Gather yourself again & Get, Set, Go…

Depressed with something? Feeling low or incapable? Confused about way forward?
Think of all the great things you’ve done. Think of the distance you’ve travelled. Speak to all the people who appreciated you for having done those things. They will again reassure you of your strengths. Gather yourself again, believe in self once more, Get, Set , Go……..

-Sucheta Gour

Human Race – Self Destructive…

Human race is a self destructive race. Irony is, it carries out destruction with the highest nobility and glorification.

-Sucheta Gour

Perfection is a Journey….

Perfection is not a final destination. Everytime you reach there, the journey begins again.

-Sucheta Gour

Overcoming Frustration…

What should you do when you get frustrated with something or someone. Well,  transfer the content from your head to someone close to you- friend, relative or spouse on a statutory warning note to them that “Forget it after heard”. Go to a nice place, shop something nice, eat your favourite dish, watch a movie.  By then you would have forgotten who/what irritated or frustrated you. Try it. It works. Life has been so simple and contented.

-Sucheta Gour