There are two types of people who explain more…
1) One who explains more because of the guilt they carry of wrong doing to the other.
2) One who explains more because of the fear of losing your loved one’s trust due to misunderstandings.
Both sound the same. The analysis varies based on the personality of one who is explaining.
-Sucheta Gour
In today’s world most of the times, we have a primary and secondary family.
A primary family before marriage are parents and siblings who become your secondary family after marriage. Because your primary family then, are your spouse and children. After your children grow up, the same primary family is restricted to you and your spouse only.
Family is one social institution where you can be yourself, expect other members to be themselves. You laugh, you cry, you show your anger, frustration, contentment to the members of the family. You care and are cared when you need them or vice versa.
You have all your right on them and they also in turn. The members aren’t perfect but they are there for you whether they like it or not because you all are sailing in the same ship. And you are destined to be going through the same storm or calm waters as other family members atleast for the time you are together.
At times you balance out the odds, conceal ones grief with other’s happiness.
There are people who do not want to believe in family, do not intend to have one or value one if they have.
Reasons are many…..
Their family isn’t having the perfect family members.
They have seen people struggling with compatibility issues with spouses.
They feel children are too big a responsibility
Or children have discipline issues.
They’ve had bad marriages in the past or seen some.
Spouse or Parents are too demanding..
With all odds, we need to deal with all these improvising our skills , building acceptance to all and still have and value atleast a primary family.
-Sucheta Gour
We have grown with the culture which said, say ‘YES’ when elders ask you to do something.
It din’t mean respect their ego. It meant respect their age and experience.No one is right in everything. Everyone is wrong at some point of time but, everyone who is older carry better experiences and has better visibility and analysis to things if they are in some position like parents or teachers or Manager or playing any other role. So saying YES and making a sincere attempt is necessary.
That builds obedience and humbleness in you and the skill to listen and explore too.
-Sucheta Gour
Blessings – the most cheapest thing to be received by people to whom they don’t mean anything. And the most expensive, invaluable thing to be received from anyone for the people who value them.
Blessings don’t excite us. Gifts do.
But blessings are the one which stand by you, take you ahead, protect you and what not.
When you bow down and seek blessings from elders, you get words from them which really carry the meaning and feelings too. I have never come across a fake blessing till now and I don’t feel they exist. Because, atleast the moment blessings are given, they are sincerely given, the person is moved because you oblige him to bless.
Value blessings though they are only words , for they are your unseen protecting shield, immense and unimaginable strength, strongest wishes for success , fill courage, confidence and positivity
-Sucheta Gour
Everyone has a conscience but most of them dont want to listen to it. Because ignorance offers a soft pillow and guilt a thorny pillow.
-Sucheta Gour
Men….the first thing coming to the mind is, they are bad. We find a dad , a son or a brother to be always great people. And rest of the world of men to be bad. Why is our perception highly influenced by the standard statements than the reality we see.There is so much glorification on Women’s day. And many men dont even know that their exists a Men’s day. All because, men do not glorify the way women do.They run out of words either to express or glorify. So…. let us join to wish all the men whom we see as father, brother, son, husband, friend
“A Happy Men’s Day to all of you!!! “
-Sucheta Gour
Do we fear efforts or success? Efforts
Do we resist change or improvement? Change
But efforts lead to success and change brings in improvement.
Do we ever give a target of 35% to our child in their exam?
Then why do we expect a target of 35% from our Manager.
Or as a Manager why do we want to give a target of 35%
Firstly,
That’s because 90% of the crowd is happy only to do as much as required. They dont want to stretch their limits because they dont want to give in the efforts required for achieving more or gaining more. And the reason given is, if I do more, I’m expected to do much more.What is failed to be understood is, if I do more, I will be equipped with more knowledge. Stretching limits will make them explore their potentials
Secondly,
We arent responsible for others growth, why do we need to go that extra mile to improve our team member. Lot of efforts are required in training and sacrifices in setting examples.
Thirdly,
Hesitation.Why will they listen to me? I’m not their parent. The age of being parented has gone by for my team member. They arent children to be taught with a stick.They arent acers either to the trade they have got in.
Fourth, the management has to set guidelines for performance and measure them.The HR has to raise pip if no performance.Why should I be the bad cop?
Well, we never say why should i be the bad cop for my child.We are never happy when our child cuts corner to achieve something. But we are never bothered when the same things are happening by our team members. Eventually, results are compromised and Managers fill up more junk crowd with less potential, less skill, reluctance to hard work…..any day replaceable by a robot.
-Sucheta Gour
An ideal child
Are we looking for a child or a programmed robot?
Who is an ideal child in today’s world?
One who will be obediently listening and following his parents’ instructions.
One who will not eat junk food
One who will score 100/100 in all his subjects.
One who will follow hygiene, take care of his room and his belongings with utmost care.
One who will wake up early in the morning and not be a night owl.
One who will not be on games app , play-station, Netflix, television and Instagram.
One who will not waste his parents money.
One who will marry a girl or boy of parent’s choice
One who will earn a lot of money.
One who will not go around freaking with his friends.
One who wont argue or disrespect his parents
One who will purse the career expectations set by parents and be successful.
One who will not be sticking on to gadgets always.
One who will be good in sports.
One who will be creative.
One who will actually respect his parents and not show pretense.
One who is empathetic about the genuine people around.
So on and so forth……
World has changed. All relations are turning out to be too practical or relations for need. Emotions are carried and portrayed in different ways. Today’s child is more a friend than a daughter or son. And the dynamics of approach of children towards their parents are totally different. So, give your child the responsibility of being a responsible and good human being.But at same time do not make him an emotional fool, weak minded, depended, less confident by over protecting or over caring.
The definition of a perfect child changes with time.Keep the basics intact and modify the outlook of approach and reciprocation towards your child’s actions . Keep your child grounded, hardworking and to be considerate.
-Sucheta Gour
A festival of lights….
Hustles everywhere
Decorations and Laughters
Status pictures and social media posts filled with the mouth watering snacks
A world of happiness
Wishes for prosperity
Seems like world has come back to normalcy
Hope is the only reason to life
Let us hope for lights and prosperity in everyone’s life
Happy Diwali!!
-Sucheta Gour
“Grass is greener on the other side. Escapism is a coward’s style.”
We can mention 1000 people’s success stories and say we have the same potential as them or better and would have done great if been there or got that opportunity.But setting right things in the place we are needs immense courage and comes with maturity and confidence.
“Reasons gather sympathy Success gathers respect.”
What do we yearn for?
We can justify ourselves with 1000 stories for one wrong thing we do. But we can avoid 1000 stories with just one correction to it.
Because failure stories or reasons aren’t bought.Success stories are sold at a high price and such people are respected too.
-Sucheta Gour
