I deny to see the bad in people.Not because I want to be a fool but bcoz I prefer to appreciate the good that God has created.

I deny to see the bad in people.Not because I want to be a fool but bcoz I prefer to appreciate the good that God has created.

I strongly believe that 80% of the people on the earth have only 20% wrong in them.And 20% of the people have 80% wrong in them.

Further the 80-20 ratio has a great explanation.We most oftenly hear a statement that good people are rare.Its not that they are rare.Its only that all arent good to all.All arent bad to all.Its only that you have preferences towards people. You are good to people whom you care for and neutral to others.But that doesnt make an impression that you are a bad personality.

When you are deliberating harnessing wrong feelings like jealousy, enemity, back stabbing, wishing others ruins etc.., you are a bad personality.

Else 80(good) -20 (bad) scale is still intact.

So God gives us still so many reasons to love the good in our fellowmen.

-Sucheta Gour

Is it wiser to accept mistakes and be on right track or carry ignorance and be away from success, or have more trials in succeeding?

If we are doing something wrong there isn’t any point in justifying that I’m right, just to feel better and not guilty. Our justifications with situations, scenarios and thought process can’t make the act right. We got to have the guts to say I’m wrong irrespective of whatever is the scenario and try not to repeat the mistake for life. We should learn to accept the weakness of our mind. That’s when we realize wisdom has dawned upon us.
Ignorance towards our mistakes only takes us away from success or right things by few more steps and lot of time.
So is it wiser to accept mistakes and be on right track or carry ignorance and be away from success, or have more trials in succeeding?

-Sucheta Gour

Reset and drive yourself towards right practices.

All predictions, strategies, execution plans, processes, policies are starting from 0 on the scale again. Seems like World is reset to a new calendar era from Apr 1st 2020.

Adaptability to change is faster in crisis. We can be brave, dare to take unconventional decisions, try the unpredictable, break traditional thought processes, Because situation is do or die.

You are prepared for the worst. And you are starting from nothing, like no standard expectations of results, nothing to loose. Such steps help in clearing out the chaos sooner.

Corporates have always played a pivotal role in structuring the lifestyle of the society. Once again the reigns are in the hands of Corporate to structure a new society with newer rules of employment, spending trends and communication trends. Priorities have changed. Definition of Career, Growth. Knowledge and wisdom have changed.
There might have been many policies, trends or culture wrongly adopted over decades. We have one opportunity now to set the right ways, approaches, trends, expectations by Corporates to the working people, Senior members of the family to youngsters, Managers to their team. Lost this opportunity, a bigger chaos would approach our further generations , probably after a century again from now and we wouldn’t have left them strong enough to face it either.

Let us not keep coming back to the basics again and again with every disaster. Let us keep our basics strong and stable to avoid any future chaos.
We started preaching yoga, organic products, good health, home remedies, cotton and wool. Now we have added few more on the list like home food, social distancing, hygiene, minimum expenditure, cooking, leading life with contentment even in the least of requirements, Handling house hold chores our-self sufficiency in the last few months.

Revisit the series of changes our life has gone through in the last century.Reset and drive yourself towards right practices.

-Sucheta Gour

There are certain things which no one can teach – humbless, humility, integrity and modesty.

There are certain things which no one can teach – humbless, humility, integrity and modesty.
These are imbibed in your personality with time and how you perceive things and situations. These are developed based on
• What has been your culture while growing up?
• What influences you matured with?
• Whom you idolise ?
• How strong a personality you are?
• What you aim for yourself as a human being?
• How you want to be treated?

-Sucheta Gour

Erase the boundaries. Clear the baggage, Increase the bandwidth. Remain a child. Explore throughout your lives.

The boundaries we draw around ourselves are the only limitations we have in life. And these boundaries are drawn when we grow up to be adults. As a child we never had any boundaries or limitations. We believed in everything that was told to us. As adults, our capabilities increased but our boundaries got narrower stronger too.
As a child ,we studied seven subjects with different logic, we had time for play, extracurricular activities and what not.
As an adult our thought process got constricted. We struggled with one subject. We started carrying more baggage about future worries past troubles, fears of failures or envy about others.
Erase the boundaries. Clear the baggage, Increase the bandwidth. Remain a child. Explore throughout your lives.

-Sucheta Gour

Who is more important? Friends and pampering people or Enemies, Strict mentors and Practical people?

People who are good to you dont build you. They aren’t the ones who drive you to your success. They only offer moral support to you when you are low which is very important but not the major cause of your success.
Because no one can walk along with you 24/7, 365 days of the year throughout your lives.

People who despise upon you, underestimate you, are dissatisfied with you, taunt you, try hard to pull you down, look down upon your potentials and capabilities, envy you, throw challenges at you, expect perfection from you every second, are the ones who contribute to your success and make you strong in your journey. They are the ones who cause adrenaline rush, the will to prove to them of your will. We come across such people 24/7, 365 days of the year throughout our lives. They haunt us. Only thing is we need to understand and appreciate the value addition they do to our lives. And compete our own self and others to prove our worth to them.

So who is more important?
Friends and pampering people or Enemies, Strict mentors and Practical people?

-Sucheta Gour

Comforting others, you forget your own pain

You get along people in their pain to comfort them and you have a companion for yours. Comforting others, you forget your own pain. And there are countless people in pain. So we can never complain of loneliness.

You get along people in their pain to comfort them and you have a companion for yours. Comforting others, you forget your own pain. And there are countless people in pain. So we can never complain of loneliness.

-Sucheta Gour

People greed of money explains what are their efforts into it? How much of it is earned by them?

Graham’s theory of diffusion is very strongly applied in the greed of money.

Many a times we come across people in terms of relatives, friends, peers, children or any other acquaintances who feel, if someone has money it should be shared with them.

They do not attach a basic logic which explains what are their efforts into it? How much of it is earned by them?

Their contribution to earning such money is nill.

But they feel, its their birth right to share such money.

They get annoyed with the truth that it isn’t a righteous way to eye on someone’s money. They will either want it as loan or just because they project they are in need or in a worse scenario. And they don’t carry the slightest shame to ask or intention of returning the money.

Further, once they realize that you wont be a scapegoat to their plans, they will go to any extent to defame you.

We need to curb such relations or their intentions by not being a soft target to them. They eventually nourish their confidence out of such success and target many people at different or same times. Irrespective of the relation we carry with them, it is important to draw a line and restrict their actions. Else some day you repent your goodness too.

-Sucheta Gour

What would you chose? Advise or Advisor?

What would you chose? Advise or Advisor?
Here are three ways to accept advise.

1) Get demotivated that you did not follow it or you cant follow it.
2) Ignore the advise because you have decided that the person just wants to point out at you or look down upon you or trying to throw impression that he knows better or reason out that it isn’t possible to accommodate all advises or the advisor doesn’t carry any credentials to advise.


3) Accommodate the advise irrespective of who is giving it don’t analyse the reason of the person . Analyse the advise alone with open mind. Try to implement or make an attempt at-least. If it is turning out to be beneficiary and improve us, then worth a try.

-Sucheta Gour

Women dont exist as human beings in the first place with emotions and individual thoughts or ideologies. Their cant be a differentiation between a machine and them.

• No one gets to live a perfect life, a perfect relation.
• Desire is the cause of misery.
• Be happy with your lives.
• Expectations ruin relations.

80% of Indian women have taken these statements so seriously that they eventually have landed up in a compromise of highest level with their lives.
They’ve sacrificed themselves in the name of integrity, responsibility, family dignity, commitment and society.
Their confidence levels are so low that, their expectations have reduced to food, shelter, clothing and a man’s protection in the society.
They dont know how normal relations and a happy life would be. Their identities are either as a wife, mother or daughter. They dont exist as human beings in the first place with emotions and individual thoughts or ideologies. Their cant be a differentiation between a machine and them.


If they object or try to correct or keep expectations, they are treated like anti-social elements of the society or revolutionists.
Wishing their own happiness, thinking of having their wish list also is beyond their imaginations.
Whereas on the other hand, Men can have expectations from their wives throughout their lives. Women have to be instrumental in every way to satisfy his wish list either directly or indirectly. And inspite of her contribution in the man’s success, she is not credited with even due respect for her existence on the earth. This is where we stand as a society.
India is an agricultural and labour force – focus country. And this is how, women are placed in both these areas.

-Sucheta Gour