The difference between them and you, if you behave them. You will lose the essence of YOU.

Know people well. But dont behave them just to teach them a lesson or to tackle them well.You take away the difference between them and you, if you behave them. You will lose the essence of YOU.

-Sucheta Gour

How to make people realize the benefit of channeling your brain power in the right direction? Should there be professional online courses and workshops for this?

‘I taught him a lesson for life so as to not mess with me’. ‘He thought himself to be too great, I’ve brought him on his knees with my tactfulness’. ‘How can he have all the happiness, let me add pain to his life’.
I have brains and I will use them.
Where, how, when, why, how often, for whose good or bad? 
No questions to be asked to self. No filters or positive thought process mandatory.


What an irony of owning the most powerful tool – brain. I’m going to use the super power of my brains for the ruins of others. What a glorification of power in the wrong sense. There is this great tact of mind which develops in troubling others and glorifying their disgusting approach.
Why cant the same brain be channelized towards the ‘making of self’ than breaking others? How to make people realize the benefit of channeling your brain power in the right direction? Should there be professional online courses and workshops for this?

-Sucheta Gour

What is the cost of Compromise? Is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?

Compromise

What is the extent of applying this word?
It spans from the right end to the wrong end.
We see people compromising to the extent of making their lives miserable.On the other hand even the slightest discomfort is called the greatest compromise.
And this scenario is is in multiple stages or areas with different people in life.
It can be in relations like a Boss – Team member, Company – Employee, Husband – Wife, Parent – Child, Between Siblings, Peers or Neighbors too. Who will define the minimum,  extreme or intolerable threshold?
In what scenarios, the definition will hold good? At times it gets limited to what someone can tolerate. In that case, is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?


Every relation demands compromise.There are multiple aspects to carry on mind when the tolerance limit needs to be set.
Compromise for the good of the relation, family, Organization, and an amicable living but within the limits of standard levels of compromise and not beyond the level of tolerance.

-Sucheta Gour

Complaining only delays the process of acceptance and reciprocation to any challenge

It is imperative for us to adapt to whatever challenge life offers. It has been so from the beginning of the world. Why do we want to complain about it today? All that is required is to show how we deal with them. Complaining only delays the process of acceptance and reciprocation to any challenge. Sooner the acceptance, earlier you are prepared for the challenge.

-Sucheta Gour

“Do whatever you can handle without regrets”

People ask me whether to chase the passion or be a dispassionate common man with average zeal. My advice is “Do whatever you can handle without regrets”. Chasing your passion comes with lot of unseen sacrifices and endless efforts. You aren’t chasing your passion for others, so,  do not expect acceptance from others when you achieve your goals. That is the only way to enjoy your journey and destination if you are persistent on achieving your goals.

-Sucheta Gour

The gap between quotes and implementation is the major challenge.

The gap between quotes and implementation is the major challenge.
We know,  the quote is right and sounding good too. We forward it to hundreds of people to say we liked it, we implemented it or we want others to feel we are implementing it.


[  ] Do we know how to implement it.
[  ] The ingredients required to implement a quote.And the amount in which it is required.
[  ] Belief, that it is applicable to us
[  ] Analysis as to what we lack and how much we lack.
[  ] The sacrifices and harsh realities to face to implement them.
The day we bridge these gaps, we are eligible to forward them. Else we are just flooding the social media and internet.

-Sucheta Gour

Is being happy a sin? Who gives them the right to decide whether you have to be happy or sad?

Is being happy a sin?
People get judgmental about you.
They count your problems and dispose off your reasons to be happy. Who gives them the right to decide whether you have to be happy or sad?
We hear people saying ,
[  ] he has this problem,
[  ] his son or daughter isn’t successful,
[  ] he isn’t happy about his spouse,
[  ] he has financial problems,
[  ] he is struggling with his career,
[  ] he owes us money,
[  ] he isn’t happy at his job.
How can he be happy?
What should be your reaction?


JUST IGNORE.
You dont need a reason to be happy.
You dont owe your happiness to anyone but ‘YOU’.
Happiness is a state of mind.
There are many more genuine and strong reasons to be happy.
[  ] Problems can be overcome only with a happy mind.
[  ] You are happy because you are blessed with a family.
[  ] Your happiness brings smiles to all the people you care about.
[  ] You get distressed by keeping yourself happy and cheerful.
[  ] You dont know how long you are alive, so celebrate life.
[  ] All your organs are working and you aren’t dependent on anyone. Celebrate your fitness.
[  ] Your mind is peaceful.
[  ] You are a kind hearted good human being with lot of contentment.
  So on and so forth………………..


Stay happy, do not hesitate to show your strength by showing how you can keep yourself happy in the toughest situation. Your happiness might bring a smile on people’s face and give them courage to fight life with a smile. Others sympathies or judgement cannot be a fuel to your life.Your happiness alone is your strength.

-Sucheta Gour

“People hurt me, fool me, deceive me, so it justifies my hurting, fooling and deceiving the people.”

“People hurt me, fool me, deceive me, so it justifies my hurting, fooling and deceiving the people.” And so the innocent people become victims to such standardised approach of the hurt ones. Ignore the ones that hurt you. There is some one else who is hurting the one who hurt you. Dont try to make it even yourself. Protect the good in you. Work towards channelizing your efforts towards a constructive thought than destroying others.Its a great waste of time and guilt getting added to you as an unwanted baggage.

-Sucheta Gour

Justify others only to an extent of keeping your morale intact

When you see from everyone’s point of you and justify everyone’s reason, your reason to justify yourself is lost.You become less important to self .Finally, your morale is lost. So justify others only to an extent of keeping your morale intact.

-Sucheta Gour

Should we set as a goal to achieve only what we see or chase the world beyond visibility.

We advise people to dream big. But we fail to teach them to achieve big and the ingredients required, the sacrifices and compromises to be made, the efforts that go into it.
Secondly, people want realistic goals n targets – conflict of two statements. If targets were easier, were they to be called achievements or goals?  They would just be called assignments.

Ideally, according to the corporate world, set achievable goals. Agreed.
If people thought flying to moon is difficult and impossible, then should they have set it as a goal. If all of us think, goals should be achievable always, then, no limitation would be broken, no records would be created, nothing invented or explored, no success stories, no legends, no heroes and no progress.
Should our mind-block become our limitations? Aren’t we capable of exceeding any expectation, achieving beyond the goal?
Should we set as a goal to achieve only what we see or chase the world beyond visibility.

-Sucheta Gour