“You are very ugly,” “You can’t achieve this in your life.” “You are dumb.” “You are dark, fat…etc…,” Dont listen when someone comments on you, Ignore it. Its demotivating to hear unappealing and hurting comments. But I say…. Listen to them. Record it and keep on your mind.They can act as a fuel for your success. The obstinancy with which you want to prove them wrong works towards actually to overcome your weakness.That’s the reason why we mention it even in future when we overcome it, when we are successful. And we do remember both… the statement about us and the person who made it. How can such valuable statements being ignored?
But then there are majority of oeople who go into depression on hearing something negative about themselves. Trait of a weak mind. And they get into a war with the person or avoid meeting him/her. It’s only the perspective to use everything for self benefit that keeps us on track.
Pain humbles you or pain makes you arrogant and insensitive. Choice is ours. It humbles you because you feel the pain of others. You are empathetic towards others. You grow arrogant because you feel you are a victim to pain.
If we were self driven, we never required a school, teachers, peers, exam, a company, a job, a boss, a society etc…, All of these intentionally or unintentionally have droven us to be successful in different phases of lives.
If we want to claim we don’t care for any of these, then why are we worried about our image and impression, results, reputation with all the above.
A person can never know his mistakes until he doesnt have the courage to hear the truth about himself. Further, a person can never correct his mistakes unless he takes the truth about himself positively. To avoid depression, if truth is avoided, improvement is also avoided.
90% of the crowd on social media prove that social status is so important. They are attention seeking, concerned about how they are envisaged by others. 5% are the ones who feed the need of 90% and another 5% are there for serious business to make advantage of the medium itself for a constructive reason. Where do you belong?
Adopting a designation or adapting to the role? Which is faster?
I often hear people saying ‘ I want to be a Manager, or AGM or VP. ” Also justifying the reason to be in a senior role with the years of experience one had. I rarely see people fancying a role and saying ‘ I can see these gaps and I want to analyse , develop better, view and implement certain strategies based on my experience or observing my Manager. I want to work seamlessly 12 hrs for developing myself. I want to sacrifice my fun and spare time to learn and adapt.I want to take the ownership of deliverables”
People adopt the designation sooner than roles. The shift to designation is in a day and to the role will take years.The ones who can identify and reduce this Turn around time is the one who is sincere and worthy of the role.
Fear of failure avoids overconfidence. Fear of failure forces you to put more efforts. Fear of losing someone makes you workout and care for a relation. Fear of rejection makes you groom and present yourselves well. Fear of sickness and ill health makes you workout and have better health. Fear of losing a deadline or a committment makes you work hard on your job. Fear of death pushes you to enjoy life today.
How can anyone dislike fears or fear fears. They are the fuel to progress and well being. Intensify your fears and channelise them in a right direction. They can do wonders for you.
You can’t be in ruins with a justification that I’ve come too far or someone drove me here.
In the first place, if you have to say I’ve come too far, where is it leading you to becomes an important question to answer. What are your gains and losses of being there is the second question.
And if you want to blame someone else for driving you there, you were neverva kid or arent a kid to be droven somewhere without your consent. No one will justify the reason or sympathise you for such lame reasons. No one will stay guilty for what they do to you. They will reason it out with their justification to overcome their conscience.
There is always a return ticket. And wiser ones will chose it.
Do you ever give an explanation? When we give explanation to others, are we actually giving an explanation to them? No we arent. We are actually explaining to ourselves because we are not able to carry the guilt ourselves and we are justifying our own conscience.
Survival is the biggest teacher. But surviving how designs the lessons. Insects survive , animals survive, birds survive, all do. But humans survive with the best strategies. Among humans few build strategies to become famous, few rich and few intelligent, few a combination of any two or all three or few. Few build strategies to yield nothing or few to trouble others or few more build strategies in the wrong directions with heights of ignorance and while away their time.
So amongst humans also there are few with irrelevant or good, or better or best strategies. So where should we stand is the decision to be made. And further the fuel for the strategies to take off – efforts, there is no escape to this. So survival can be the best teacher when you accept to survive the best way not as a meagre.