Every wish can be fulfilled. But, do we always wish the right things? Do we always know what is right for us?

Every wish can be fulfilled. But, do we always wish the right things? Do we always know what is right for us?

-Sucheta Gour

Faith in any relation is love. Faith in God is also love.

I haven’t come across a God who cursed or punished. We chose our sorrows and happiness through our decisions and deeds.Its only that we weren’t courageous enough to own them or accept them. So we chose God to blame – Escapism.

It’s important to be grateful than being great. Being grateful creates humbleness. Being great creates attitude.

Faith in any relation is love. Faith in God is also love.

-Sucheta Gour

Start seeing yourself from their (people’s) side. You will get the answers for the way they trapped you,  loved you, hated you, treated you, abused you.

Start seeing yourself from their (people’s) side. You will get the answers for the way they trapped you,  loved you, hated you, treated you, abused you. There will be 2 or 3 probabilities for all their actions and behaviours. And then,  you don’t have these questions of why did they do this to me, why do they love me or why am I so important to them. You will get to know their reasons for all of them. And then you have only few questions to deal with.

Should they be in your life? If yes, what level of interaction and transparency to be maintained. How much access you will want to give them to your life? If no, how well you will avoid them or slip out from their life. Why is it important to do this activity? To free the bandwidth on your mind and get better constructive at your work than wasting your precious time on unworthy, unwanted people or things. Or to keep yourself connected to genuine people who really care for you and love you.

-Sucheta Gour

Feed your goals with frustrations and pain. Contentment has never moved anyone even an inch ahead.

Feed your goals with frustrations and pain. Contentment has never moved anyone even an inch ahead.

-Sucheta Gour

Why create distinction on people’s mind and evoke sympathy only in that category. Why do we never say “HUMANITY CALLING “?

People say Justice for Doctors, Justice for Engineers, Justice for Policeman, Justice for Bankers . Most of the times, no one is targeted because they are of any particular profession. People in all and any profession are targeted by people in rage or mental imbalance at that moment, less contol on self- emotions like anger, fear, rejection etc…, Let us not give an agenda to our politicians.


Why can’t there be a standard call for anyone who is affected by any other human? Why create distinction on people’s mind and evoke sympathy only in that category. Why do we never say “HUMANITY CALLING “? Our society is already divided enough in terms of religion, language, class, creed, race, literacy etc..,  Do we further add to it by having division on the basis of profession?

-Sucheta Gour

Difference between Stress and Tiredness.

Difference between Stress and Tiredness.

Stress
During the process of doing something
When fear haunts you about – being unsuccessful in some task or not completing the task on time.
When you fear the result of unacceptance about your action or thought process.
When you unnecessarily worry about things not in your control.
When you worry and not think.

Tiredness
After completion of doing something or at the fag end of it.
When you have given 100% to the task and contented with your efforts leaving the results to God.
When you are exhausted after giving 1000% towards precaution of  an ugly outcome.
When you can hit the bed and get into deep sleep.
When you get exhausted thinking.

Chose tiredness over stress.
Stress is a complicated word which did not exist before a decade or so. Tiredness existed from ever since man was born. Tiredness did not cause psychological disorders or weakness of mind or infunite worries.
Stress never solved any problem.

Our previous generations worked more rigorously, were more efficient in handling life’s problems, Carried better memory, handled the families well and held them closer inspite of too many people to take care of. They never made anything so complicated. For our generations going to office also is stressful. We never enjoy life as is. We always want glorification in everything. We need vacations, weekend hangouts, pubs, long drives and still we arent able to win over stress. Our previous generations enjoyed a contented life without these luxuries too.

-Sucheta Gour

Don’t give way to people who put you down, Don’t look down upon self because others do. Don’t try to evaluate yourself on others impression about you

Who writes contents or forward messages on status like, “Don’t give way to people who put you down, Don’t look down upon self because others do. Don’t try to evaluate yourself on others impression about you.”


These are the people who are already under the influence of others opinion about them and want to send out a message to them removing their frustration through their status. Weak minds who can’t overcome the feeling if someone has looked down upon them.
World is full of people who look down upon us. Such reactions are only when such people’s actions have influenced our mind. If we have learnt the skill to ignore, then, these important actions of unimportant people wouldn’t have been on our mind to pull us down but would have been our fuel to push us up.

Sucheta Gour

I’m doing so much. What else can I do? Who has set this benchmark or yardstick to limitations that how much ever you are doing is your maximum?

I’m doing so much. What else can I do? Who has set this benchmark or yardstick to limitations that how much ever you are doing is your maximum?
Break the barriers you have set in your mind about yourself. You are not doing a favour on your Manager, Boss, Parent, Company, Teacher or spouse by doing so. Get better at everything everyday. Keep all the options open to explore yourself.Life will be fulfilling and filled with enthusiasm. Goals will be met.
And you will be amazed to witness your own potentials. No one is born intelligent, smart, strategical and Great stylist. All these are acquired skills. Just go ahead and acquire them.

Sucheta Gour

The one who pretend victim and weak are supported.The one who are strong and right are troubled more.

The one who pretend victim and weak are supported.The one who are strong and right are troubled more.This is the rule of society.

-Sucheta Gour

What are the ideal preachings Vs what they should ideally be?

No one is preaching on managing stress effectively. Everyone is preaching about running away from Stress. And in today’s world managing job, career, family, finance, Spouse (girl friend) and children is stressful. Well, If I’m not wrong, isn’t this everyone’s life story. Why are these basic responsibilities termed stressful activities?
So what are the ideal preachings Vs what they should ideally be.

Job stress – Take a break from work.Go on a vacation. Its ok not to give 100% to your job. Your physical and mental health is important.
Vs
Do not feel you are doing something great. 99.99% of the people have felt pressurized at work more than 80% of the times in their job. Everyone has the same story. Some do not glorify it, you do. Figure out gaps in your thought process, align them to make your job better ,speak to your friend/colleague for the right kind of advice and let that phase to pass by, but keep your efforts and positivity intact. Any job will have challenges. Learn to deal with them.

Career: Its ok if you do not grow in your career. All cannot aim at being Steve Jobs.
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Everyone’s career should be important to them. Everyone should make an attempt to discover their maximum potentials. God hasn’t been partial when distributing knowledge or potentials.We have to make maximum use of it. How we used our potenials define our career path. Steve jobs also went through a lot to be there.So, if you are facing challenges. You are in the making of one more Steve jobs. So, go for the kill.

Family: Not everyone can be satisfied. You need not make your life hell to satisfy all your family members’ needs.
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Family is an important part of everyone’s life. Keeping them happy is your basic responsibility. But set the right expectations about what they should expect from you. At the same dont feel guilty of not doing some thing.Showing love is not giving expensive gifts to your family. Care for them, love them. That should suffice.

Finance: Money isn’t everything. How much is enough can never be defined when it comes to money.
Still no one lends you a penny when you dont have any.
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Money is a fuel to a good living, good education and secured old age.Let us accept.There is nothing wrong in striving to earn it. Let us work towards earning money without creating stress about did I earn enough? Let us not have this approach of “grapes are sour”. We know we have to earn enough. Let us systematically plan, ethical earn, cautiously spend and wisely save it.

Spouse: Women are nagging and very emotional, men are boaring and insensitive. Their expectations and demands are sky high. So ignore them or try your 1000% efforts to satisfy them.
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Keep the balance. Be verbal about your feelings because most relations are stressed because of lack of communication. Love and respect each other enough to build understanding. Accept, you aren’t twins. You are two different individuals with different likes and dislikes. You are bound to disagree or fight. You did that with your parents and siblings. Treat the differences the same way. No one is going to award you on winning a battle or proving yourself right.Keep the love for each other intact. Stop asking why he or she does this to me. The other side also has same questions probably on different contexts.

Children: What they do, what they are learning, with whom they are, what will they be, do they have everything I didnt have. What else i can do so that they have a comfortable life, love me, idealise me and respect me.
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Dont stress yourself with these thoughts.Build a good bonding so that the child reveals about their activities, friends and plans. Be cautious, track your child to certain extent, but remember, you arent God.You cant know everything, be everywhere, do everything right all the time. Stop trying to become an ideal parent. Bring in acceptance about you in your child, give right values and strong ethics. Reiterate.
Keep them occupied in constructive activities and in a right environment. Stop feeling guilty.

If we complain of all the lives best of the things and unavoidable things as stress factors, then we have to become a saint and meditate. Irony is,  we will be stressed with that too.

Sucheta Gour