A man’s strength, positivity or potential is identifiable only when he is going through bad times.
We keep saying we are strong. No person can analyse how much he has studied without writing an exam. Bad times are the exams we give. Every exam is given with an expectation to pass. Then, why avoid bad times. Good times don’t demonstrate your strength. Good times cannot be enjoyed without bad times. Hope the very purpose to live is because of the bad times we face.
So, what should we be complaining about?
Embrace bad times the way you embrace good times. Without an exam you cant pass and even if you do, it would be cheating our-self. Look forward for the exam, prepare yourself. Analyse from all ways, be sincere, attempt from every angle – Pass the exam with flying colours.
Perfectionist and hard workers are never liked because they create inferiority complex to others.
Its because you cannot reach to where they are or be like them.It requires un-ending sacrifices .And you cannot sit back and watch them succeed either since their success makes you envious and brings down your self confidence.
And when such people turn out to be bosses, life is miserable for the people below since they are never satisfied with you and obsessed with never ending zeal for perfection. Only thing perfectionists can offer is growth and success which is the most essential ingredient for life.
The birds fly quitting the tree and the nests once the tree is on fire.
Employees quit once the Company is running through crisis.
What is the other option they have?
Else they burn along with their families.
When the company starts getting into problems, the employees also look for other companies to survive. This example though very apt for the situation and sounds mean, but there can’t be an alternative most of the times.
The only possible thing is see to that there wont be a fire or it gets extinguished in the very initial stage before it causes ruins.
The tree is a mandatory requirement for people to nest in, whether you plant it or someone else does it for you.
All accountabilities, responsibilities needs to be delivered before there is a chaos and in the initial phase of the chaos. Not when we have only option left…. to flee away.
I deny to see the bad in people.Not because I want to be a fool but bcoz I prefer to appreciate the good that God has created.
I strongly believe that 80% of the people on the earth have only 20% wrong in them.And 20% of the people have 80% wrong in them.
Further the 80-20 ratio has a great explanation.We most oftenly hear a statement that good people are rare.Its not that they are rare.Its only that all arent good to all.All arent bad to all.Its only that you have preferences towards people. You are good to people whom you care for and neutral to others.But that doesnt make an impression that you are a bad personality.
When you are deliberating harnessing wrong feelings like jealousy, enemity, back stabbing, wishing others ruins etc.., you are a bad personality.
Else 80(good) -20 (bad) scale is still intact.
So God gives us still so many reasons to love the good in our fellowmen.
If we are doing something wrong there isn’t any point in justifying that I’m right, just to feel better and not guilty. Our justifications with situations, scenarios and thought process can’t make the act right. We got to have the guts to say I’m wrong irrespective of whatever is the scenario and try not to repeat the mistake for life. We should learn to accept the weakness of our mind. That’s when we realize wisdom has dawned upon us. Ignorance towards our mistakes only takes us away from success or right things by few more steps and lot of time. So is it wiser to accept mistakes and be on right track or carry ignorance and be away from success, or have more trials in succeeding?
All predictions, strategies, execution plans, processes, policies are starting from 0 on the scale again. Seems like World is reset to a new calendar era from Apr 1st 2020.
Adaptability to change is faster in crisis. We can be brave, dare to take unconventional decisions, try the unpredictable, break traditional thought processes, Because situation is do or die.
You are prepared for the worst. And you are starting from nothing, like no standard expectations of results, nothing to loose. Such steps help in clearing out the chaos sooner.
Corporates have always played a pivotal role in structuring the lifestyle of the society. Once again the reigns are in the hands of Corporate to structure a new society with newer rules of employment, spending trends and communication trends. Priorities have changed. Definition of Career, Growth. Knowledge and wisdom have changed. There might have been many policies, trends or culture wrongly adopted over decades. We have one opportunity now to set the right ways, approaches, trends, expectations by Corporates to the working people, Senior members of the family to youngsters, Managers to their team. Lost this opportunity, a bigger chaos would approach our further generations , probably after a century again from now and we wouldn’t have left them strong enough to face it either.
Let us not keep coming back to the basics again and again with every disaster. Let us keep our basics strong and stable to avoid any future chaos. We started preaching yoga, organic products, good health, home remedies, cotton and wool. Now we have added few more on the list like home food, social distancing, hygiene, minimum expenditure, cooking, leading life with contentment even in the least of requirements, Handling house hold chores our-self sufficiency in the last few months.
Revisit the series of changes our life has gone through in the last century.Reset and drive yourself towards right practices.
There are certain things which no one can teach – humbless, humility, integrity and modesty. These are imbibed in your personality with time and how you perceive things and situations. These are developed based on • What has been your culture while growing up? • What influences you matured with? • Whom you idolise ? • How strong a personality you are? • What you aim for yourself as a human being? • How you want to be treated?
The boundaries we draw around ourselves are the only limitations we have in life. And these boundaries are drawn when we grow up to be adults. As a child we never had any boundaries or limitations. We believed in everything that was told to us. As adults, our capabilities increased but our boundaries got narrower stronger too. As a child ,we studied seven subjects with different logic, we had time for play, extracurricular activities and what not. As an adult our thought process got constricted. We struggled with one subject. We started carrying more baggage about future worries past troubles, fears of failures or envy about others. Erase the boundaries. Clear the baggage, Increase the bandwidth. Remain a child. Explore throughout your lives.
People who are good to you dont build you. They aren’t the ones who drive you to your success. They only offer moral support to you when you are low which is very important but not the major cause of your success. Because no one can walk along with you 24/7, 365 days of the year throughout your lives.
People who despise upon you, underestimate you, are dissatisfied with you, taunt you, try hard to pull you down, look down upon your potentials and capabilities, envy you, throw challenges at you, expect perfection from you every second, are the ones who contribute to your success and make you strong in your journey. They are the ones who cause adrenaline rush, the will to prove to them of your will. We come across such people 24/7, 365 days of the year throughout our lives. They haunt us. Only thing is we need to understand and appreciate the value addition they do to our lives. And compete our own self and others to prove our worth to them.
So who is more important? Friends and pampering people or Enemies, Strict mentors and Practical people?
You get along people in their pain to comfort them and you have a companion for yours. Comforting others, you forget your own pain. And there are countless people in pain. So we can never complain of loneliness.