“You are very ugly,” “You can’t achieve this in your life.” “You are dumb.” “You are dark, fat…etc…,” Dont listen when someone comments on you, Ignore it. Its demotivating to hear unappealing and hurting comments. But I say…. Listen to them. Record it and keep on your mind.They can act as a fuel for your success. The obstinancy with which you want to prove them wrong works towards actually to overcome your weakness.That’s the reason why we mention it even in future when we overcome it, when we are successful. And we do remember both… the statement about us and the person who made it. How can such valuable statements being ignored?
But then there are majority of oeople who go into depression on hearing something negative about themselves. Trait of a weak mind. And they get into a war with the person or avoid meeting him/her. It’s only the perspective to use everything for self benefit that keeps us on track.
Pain humbles you or pain makes you arrogant and insensitive. Choice is ours. It humbles you because you feel the pain of others. You are empathetic towards others. You grow arrogant because you feel you are a victim to pain.
If we were self driven, we never required a school, teachers, peers, exam, a company, a job, a boss, a society etc…, All of these intentionally or unintentionally have droven us to be successful in different phases of lives.
If we want to claim we don’t care for any of these, then why are we worried about our image and impression, results, reputation with all the above.
A person can never know his mistakes until he doesnt have the courage to hear the truth about himself. Further, a person can never correct his mistakes unless he takes the truth about himself positively. To avoid depression, if truth is avoided, improvement is also avoided.
90% of the crowd on social media prove that social status is so important. They are attention seeking, concerned about how they are envisaged by others. 5% are the ones who feed the need of 90% and another 5% are there for serious business to make advantage of the medium itself for a constructive reason. Where do you belong?
Adopting a designation or adapting to the role? Which is faster?
I often hear people saying ‘ I want to be a Manager, or AGM or VP. ” Also justifying the reason to be in a senior role with the years of experience one had. I rarely see people fancying a role and saying ‘ I can see these gaps and I want to analyse , develop better, view and implement certain strategies based on my experience or observing my Manager. I want to work seamlessly 12 hrs for developing myself. I want to sacrifice my fun and spare time to learn and adapt.I want to take the ownership of deliverables”
People adopt the designation sooner than roles. The shift to designation is in a day and to the role will take years.The ones who can identify and reduce this Turn around time is the one who is sincere and worthy of the role.
Greatest problem of today’s youth BREAK UPS Breakups are mourned worse than death. They are glorified more than life itself. They are portrayed to an extent of having lost the purpose of life. If you were so important for the other person how could they imagine a life without you. And if they found other priorities why are you wasting your time , life and focus for them. Some one said ones, “if you love something let it go, if its back to you, its yours and if it doesnt, then it was never yours.” And this holds good even till date.
I fail to understand one thing strongly. Is it that you are missing the person genuinely or you are enraged by the rejection and the ego is hurt. And if all this is true, will you live a life of isolation mourning for the person forever. If no, then why cant you learn to move out of the phase faster and focus on real important things of life. Its seems like the youth needs classes on ” Moving on without harming your life”.What a tragedy? The so called adults need to be taught basic wisdom. Or should I say they need to be taught, how important they are for themselves and for those to whom they matter, their parents, or their family.And how can there be any reason be bigger enough to deny or ignore this fact.
You carry your pain on your sleeve and miss out all the best things of life.You turn out to be an introvert or an extrovert. You start taking the other gender lightly or you are extremely cautious. Why have these extremes when all this is utter waste of time. Nothing constructive or productive but only carrying the burden and stink of rotten potatoes. It doesnt just end their, there is still a long story to it. Whole of your social media is flooded with posts of frustration and dejection.Why do you want to blow a beugle and proclaim to the world that someone didnt find you worthy enough. Or they could’nt tolerate you for what you are. Or probably you want to gain sympathy from people to feel better that the other one is at fault and not you. Why make self so vulnerable that you are hurt to an extent of losing your own precious self. Its OK to lose some people in the life’s journey. Specially the ones who were not made for you or you werent made for them. Nature maintains its balance well. Do we ever mourn our parents death for months and years? We dont and if we dont, no one else can be more important before even proving a strong bonding for years.
Oh, how I wish, I would have had a break up and shown people, how else it could be dealt with. But, Alas, not been lucky enough or should I say have been lucky enough to give importance to self.
Loads can be written and discussed based on observations. Is it even worth it to value self less than a person who dumped you.
Fear of failure avoids overconfidence. Fear of failure forces you to put more efforts. Fear of losing someone makes you workout and care for a relation. Fear of rejection makes you groom and present yourselves well. Fear of sickness and ill health makes you workout and have better health. Fear of losing a deadline or a committment makes you work hard on your job. Fear of death pushes you to enjoy life today.
How can anyone dislike fears or fear fears. They are the fuel to progress and well being. Intensify your fears and channelise them in a right direction. They can do wonders for you.
You can’t be in ruins with a justification that I’ve come too far or someone drove me here.
In the first place, if you have to say I’ve come too far, where is it leading you to becomes an important question to answer. What are your gains and losses of being there is the second question.
And if you want to blame someone else for driving you there, you were neverva kid or arent a kid to be droven somewhere without your consent. No one will justify the reason or sympathise you for such lame reasons. No one will stay guilty for what they do to you. They will reason it out with their justification to overcome their conscience.
There is always a return ticket. And wiser ones will chose it.