‘S/He will be there for me’ is a great feeling than ‘S/He doesnt have a choice than be with me’ or why should S/He need anything, when my presence in her/his life is enough.
No.. its not enough, you got to prove that you are worthy of the other by trying to know him/her, help him/ her , share his/her problems and tasks, value his/her caring and respect him/her. We take our spouse for granted. Thats the point when relation starts disintegrating.
Differentiate the two feelings well. And adopt the right feeling.
Else choices can always be made by individuals at any point in life. Though it might end up harming both ends. S/He can make choices otherwise if S/He has had the courage to suffer in silence.
Do not provoke the calm, settled emotions of a person to the extent of creating imbalance in both the lives. Harmony in a relation is the result of efforts from both the partners in a relation.
Care to be cared. Respect to be respected. Love to be loved….
It is very common and easy to glorify another woman, but very difficult and rare to appreciate, support and respect the woman in our life.
How often have we told our Mom,
“You’ve been a Wonderful Mom, I owe you all my good qualities and achievements till now. You’ve made the toughest compromises and sacrifices to make me reach where I am.”
or to your wife –
“You’ve stood by me through thick and thin. I couldn’t have done better in my life without you. You keep me focused on my goals, by keeping me away from all the other worries and challenges of life about home and children. You have supported me to have a good journey of life.”
“If not for you people I would have been a hollow person from within and wouldn’t have reached so far.”
Keep all the awkwardness, funny and strange feeling aside. Speak out, atleast sometimes. Your words make their lives contented. BEGIN TODAY. Your mom will feel proud and acknowledged for all the efforts and compromises of her life.
Your wife will respect, love you more and feel valued. Remember you aren’t giving the women too much importance by saying so. They wouldn’t start flying sky high with your reciprocation of gratitude. They would feel humbled rather. You are just making them feel complete.
There isn’t any point in appreciating them in front of your friends. It’s only glorifying yourself again that you are appreciating your Wife and Mom. You value them, you want recognition and appreciation for doing this too.
Rather dare to overcome your hesitation-speak to them right in their eyes and say ‘THANK YOU’. You will definitely see tears of joy and contentment in their eyes. You will see them feeling their lifetime efforts justified and acknowledged.
Even God needs you to say ‘THANK YOU’ to keep hearing your wishes and granting them. Don’t expect women to be better than God though, we really need to appreciate them to be doing everything for us unconditionally and without any expectation for self.
– Sucheta Gour