Make peace with self. Your expectations with people are the reason for your disappointment with them.
Your expectations from life are the reason for your unhappiness. Your expectations from self are the reason for your depression and frustration about self. So, you are at the centre of everything, with your expectations circling you blurring your vision and direction to your goals, success and contentment.
Learn to make peace with self. Have controlled expectations. Emerge out of the circle with a focus on what needs to be done to achieve measurable success that matters than giving unnecessary importance to self and others.
In today’s world most of the times, we have a primary and secondary family. A primary family before marriage are parents and siblings who become your secondary family after marriage. Because your primary family then, are your spouse and children. After your children grow up, the same primary family is restricted to you and your spouse only. Family is one social institution where you can be yourself, expect other members to be themselves. You laugh, you cry, you show your anger, frustration, contentment to the members of the family. You care and are cared when you need them or vice versa. You have all your right on them and they also in turn. The members aren’t perfect but they are there for you whether they like it or not because you all are sailing in the same ship. And you are destined to be going through the same storm or calm waters as other family members atleast for the time you are together. At times you balance out the odds, conceal ones grief with other’s happiness.
There are people who do not want to believe in family, do not intend to have one or value one if they have. Reasons are many….. Their family isn’t having the perfect family members. They have seen people struggling with compatibility issues with spouses. They feel children are too big a responsibility Or children have discipline issues. They’ve had bad marriages in the past or seen some. Spouse or Parents are too demanding.. With all odds, we need to deal with all these improvising our skills , building acceptance to all and still have and value atleast a primary family.
“We did so much of good and the other person didn’t carry gratitude”
These are our lines with lots of regret and disheartenment
Do we do good for people to carry gratitude for us?
Isn’t our account maintained by God?
Are people capable of reciprocating our good deeds or only God?
Anger and anguish will be there if you do good and are reciprocated with bad deliberately by people. Still there is someone out there who is watching.
When we do good to someone, there is a feeling of contentment and worthiness. The contentment is for boosting our spirit that we are good and capable to do good.
The worthiness is for the reason that God has created us and we have proved our worth to Him by making a difference to someone.
We ought to do good to keep our account intact with God. Nothing else matters.
