NEW INDIA ON THE MOVE !!!

New India – A hope. A sense of responsibility. A sense of mutual benefit.

All prevail because of the courage to stand up and own your words and actions, courage to turn wrong into right, courage to show inside out – transparency, courage to make things visible, courage to speak out, and courage to allow deserving and knowledgeable people to carry the baton and run towards the goal. Persistence, Clarity and, sustainability in communication, selflessness motivate the common man to raise the bar in expectations from Govt and bureaucrats.

  • Sucheta Gour

FIRST-TIME LEADERS – TRANSITION TO MANAGER

“My expectation is my team member work, and I will enjoy the designation. I will make only boss around. I’m the Manager. I’ve worked enough to reach here. I no more intend to slog further.” 

The failure of a leader is because he fails to lead by illustration. You can’t be a leader only by giving advice. You should be able to stand up to demonstrate when required and handle the psychologies of the team member well.

Self-discipline is hard to sustain when people look at you as a leader. 

Punctuality, Body language, choice of words, Attitude, Integrity thoroughly, knowledge, interaction, motivation – a sustained approach in all these is a challenge for the leader unless it is his way of life or he is willing to adopt it without the downtime.

Further, leadership transition should possess the maturity to choose between speaking and silence at the right time—the topics for silence and the issues to speak about. The thought process should rise to talk about integrity and efforts essential in the job and company to peers and subordinates.

An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

It applies in all contexts.  Engaging an employee in productivity is very important. Else he will engage in office politics and life outside the office and prioritize them over time. The control is lost. The employee is reluctant to involve entirely in the job. But the root cause is not known by the Manager.

Again micromanagement is not the solution. But micro-level analysis and emotion management are. A manager’s role is more time-consuming than an individual contributor’s.

Sucheta Gour

Idealism is a myth and unreasonable!!!

An ideal vendor is…..
The one who works on no margins providing the best service in the least TAT without asking for the money for the service rendered.
An ideal client is
The one who doesn’t demand quality or a specific TAT but pays for the service in time without questioning the percentage of margins.

An ideal employee is
One who is intelligent, hardworking, not demanding or throw tantrums, multi-tasking, obedient, smart, less- supervised, reach 200% targets, retire in the organization but still work on peanuts.

An ideal employer is
One who pays salaries without performances. Provides exorbitant appraisals and promotions without expectations. Gives the world’s relaxation and benefits. Never ask Questions. Support in upskilling, training and trials.

An ideal husband is
A combination of handsome, sincere, integral, helpful, hen-pecked, rich, strong, non- egoistic, fun-loving person.

An ideal wife is
An intelligent, beautiful, obedient, witty,  well groomed, earning a handsome salary, great cook, wise mother, sincere daughter-in-law and home keeper.

An ideal child is
One who is intelligent, has good habits, creative, obedient, responsible, disciplined, into multiple activities like sports, cultural etc. Makes good friends.

An ideal parent is
The one who gives the world’s relaxation, doesn’t question, provide luxuries, doesn’t expect, pays good pocket money, allow their decisions and  tantrums, friendly, doesn’t object on anything.

All ideal ones are nothing but unrealistic expectations which we bound to stick on to. Moderation’s aren’t acceptable though that is the only possibility.

-Sucheta Gour

God and life hurt less, People hurt more. God and life chose us

God and life hurt less, People hurt more Because we chose them over the other two. God and life chose us. We hurt God and Life more. So you know where it all comes from…..EXPECTATIONS.

-Sucheta Gour

Every boyfriend or girlfriend is perfect and every husband or wife is imperfect.

Every boyfriend or girlfriend is perfect and every husband or wife is imperfect.

Reasons
1) Expectations are nill in a courtship.Expectations are sky high in a marriage.
2) You dont stay together.You have that breathing space away from the other for yourself.
3) Fear of losing the other is higher.Fear of losing the other is nil.


4) The attempt to impress and being impressed is on.You know the other like the back of your hand.

-Sucheta Gour

WHAT MAKES US GRIEVE WHEN ANY RELATION DOESNT CONTINUE?

WHAT MAKES US GRIEVE WHEN ANY RELATION DOESNT CONTINUE?

We dont grieve because others matter to us. We grieve because we dont matter to them. Ideally, we should feel happy when others matter to us, because, then we feel happiness in giving. But, we are unhappy  when we dont receive, which shows, we should be important to others.

Keep your expectations nill. Feel happy in giving than receiving. Whoever comes or leaves your life, you will never be unhappy.

-Sucheta Gour

Why she isn’t loved? Is it beneficiary to be strong or is it better to be timid and dependent?

Strong women face depression not because they aren’t wanted by anyone. They are very important and effective in all lives associated with them. They can make a difference to even 1000 lives they associate with.
But they feel lonely because, they are not wanted by anyone to be loved or cared. But only to love and care for others.

Why she isn’t loved?

Many people assume she doesn’t need to be loved because she already have many who love and care for her.
Or few assume that she is so strong and practical, that she doesn’t value emotions at all.

Is it beneficiary to be strong or is it better to be timid and dependent?

I would still say strong, because a life with favours ,sympathy from others in the name of love which people will one day drown you in the debt of gratitude and drive you weaker emotionally is not worth it. And no one can shield  you and prioritise you forever.

There is a statement, ‘Fake it before you make it’. And if a life faking strength makes you so powerful from within, then why not? Eventually you get used to live a life full of contentment that you are self made and you do not need support. Expectations make you sad. A shoulder always makes you weaker. A giver is always contended.
What best can happen to you than to be in a place not to receive from people but from God Himself. Invaluable Blessings for all the good you’ve done and stood by all.

– Sucheta Gour