You are a woman, you need to learn to cook. Why? Just because you are a woman. Let us stop relating everything to a gender and gain sympathy. Let us take pride in being the nutritionist and a chef for our family. We cook so that our family gets the best of the food.
Even a man can think accordingly. But women have been more consistent , mindful and better skilled due to the society’s impositions. The prototype will change over a period of time.
But whoever is cooking owns the responsibility of a nutritional food on time all the three times with great taste most of the meals you serve. So keep the gender aside. Cook for you near and dear ones with love.
I fail to understand why a dog or donkey is most of the times used as a synonym for wrong , ugly and bad qualities in humans. If humans could ever reach the standards set by these animals in trust, love, loyalty, discipline, integrity and hardwork, the world would have used humans as synonyms for all these traits.
We still say ‘ Work like a donkey’ or ‘As faithful as a dog’. And these animals do all this acknowledging only the food and shelter given to them. Any human to do the same would definitely expect a fortune in return or never ending appreciation. So do we really belong to the superior species?
‘S/He will be there for me’ is a great feeling than ‘S/He doesnt have a choice than be with me’ or why should S/He need anything, when my presence in her/his life is enough.
No.. its not enough, you got to prove that you are worthy of the other by trying to know him/her, help him/ her , share his/her problems and tasks, value his/her caring and respect him/her. We take our spouse for granted. Thats the point when relation starts disintegrating.
Differentiate the two feelings well. And adopt the right feeling. Else choices can always be made by individuals at any point in life. Though it might end up harming both ends. S/He can make choices otherwise if S/He has had the courage to suffer in silence.
Do not provoke the calm, settled emotions of a person to the extent of creating imbalance in both the lives. Harmony in a relation is the result of efforts from both the partners in a relation.
Care to be cared. Respect to be respected. Love to be loved….
When she can observe you for hours noticing and being amused with every expression of yours. She imitates you unknowingly.
When she forgets to see around when she is with you.
When she is keen on how you see her than how the world sees her.
When she can be the boldest across the world and still shy away when it comes to you.
When she annoys you for small things and fears your anger.
When she finds no flaws in your looks.
When she knows you like the back of her hand?
When she cares for you like an infant and seek your arms to feel secured.
When she cherishes every moment with you.
When she is cautious about her actions not to hurt you even when you aren’t around.
When she wishes your good by habit and not deliberately.
When she trusts you more than herself
When she fears losing you which shows in her possessiveness.
When people place and things remind her of you which means her world revolves around you.
When she is 100% sure you would never hurt her.
When she corrects your wrong and appreciates your right.
When she feels offended about anyone looking down upon you and corrects your flaws before others notice and look down upon you.
When she can find answers for your every question.
Pray for you day and night. When she can fight with God to change your destiny to good.
When she authorise you to be possessive about her love.
When she feels overwhelmed and proud of your success.
When she looks for her identity in you and you become her priority above herself.
When she is never contented by your achievement and keep aiming higher for you raising the bar of perfection.
When she tries every attempt to be your strength and not your weakness.
Stand by you through thick and thin. Motivates you knowing your shortfalls either by provoking you or appreciating you.
Help you recognise your strengths and boost them up. Recognise your weakness and make you overcome them.
When she doesn’t gauge you by your bank balance, but the emotional quotient of your heart for her.
And when all this is done unconditionally, you know you are the one she has chosen to belong to.
A combination of mother, girlfriend, wife and daughter.
And when does the woman get to know that he doesn’t love her?
When he doesn’t value any of the above and still questions your fundamentals.
Treats you like an intruder amidst his family. Is biased by his upbringing and society’s wrong influences alone and hardly behaves educated.
Keeps secrets from you.
Questions your integrity even at the end of your life.
Takes you for granted owing to your gender and the rules of society set for you.
Your 200% love is considered your bare minimum duty and even 10% reciprocation is considered a favor.
Not willing to compromise on his luxuries or fun which are considered needs but your needs are considered luxuries.
When he chooses you to compromise on your career, health and relaxation for his comfort.
When he is unaware of any of your sacrifices, your care becomes nagging and concern becomes irritation and botherance.
When you become one more woman on the earth and no more remain a special person though you do the maximum justice to the relation.
When he is sure that you wouldn’t leave him inspite of all his emotional torture or insensitiveness because your culture and society doesn’t accept your betrayal to him or independence from him.
A combination of a stranger, cheater and an enemy in disguise.
The next set of questions to follow in the next blog.
We read so many advise that this is how you ought to relieve stress or how you should make your relations better. These advise are just like notices on a notice board.
We are happy to read them and say ‘So nice’. We are more keen on appreciating the speaker.
We will implement it is what we think. We never try to know what are our shortfalls to execute them in our life.
We try in the wrong direction and fail and give up. We need to look within ourselves and see what we are and what is the required approach to deal with our short falls. Find the gap existing inside us and thereon implement the advise
It is very common and easy to glorify another woman, but very difficult and rare to appreciate, support and respect the woman in our life.
How often have we told our Mom,
“You’ve been a Wonderful Mom, I owe you all my good qualities and achievements till now. You’ve made the toughest compromises and sacrifices to make me reach where I am.”
or to your wife –
“You’ve stood by me through thick and thin. I couldn’t have done better in my life without you. You keep me focused on my goals, by keeping me away from all the other worries and challenges of life about home and children. You have supported me to have a good journey of life.”
“If not for you people I would have been a hollow person from within and wouldn’t have reached so far.”
Keep all the awkwardness, funny and strange feeling aside. Speak out, atleast sometimes. Your words make their lives contented. BEGIN TODAY. Your mom will feel proud and acknowledged for all the efforts and compromises of her life.
Your wife will respect, love you more and feel valued. Remember you aren’t giving the women too much importance by saying so. They wouldn’t start flying sky high with your reciprocation of gratitude. They would feel humbled rather. You are just making them feel complete.
There isn’t any point in appreciating them in front of your friends. It’s only glorifying yourself again that you are appreciating your Wife and Mom. You value them, you want recognition and appreciation for doing this too.
Rather dare to overcome your hesitation-speak to them right in their eyes and say ‘THANK YOU’. You will definitely see tears of joy and contentment in their eyes. You will see them feeling their lifetime efforts justified and acknowledged.
Even God needs you to say ‘THANK YOU’ to keep hearing your wishes and granting them. Don’t expect women to be better than God though, we really need to appreciate them to be doing everything for us unconditionally and without any expectation for self.
