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An essential lesson for every girl

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No mother or father ever tells their daughter to take care of herself because her family needs her. An essential lesson for every girl….

The difference between arrogance and self respect. If you raise voice against being abused or ill-treated  or if you expect basic respect in return, you are called arrogant, egoistic and feminist.

The difference between giving importance to self and being self-centred.
You are blamed of being self centred when you also want to be given equal importance in the family.

The difference between compromising and caring for the family. Only when you make highest level of compromises and sacrifices without even making it known, you are considered to be caring for the family.

The difference between self esteem and attitude. Respect for self is considered as an attitude intolerable and unacceptable.

The difference between grooming for self and grooming for others. You are required to groom according to the family’s wish or husband’s wish. Mirrors are meant only to see yourself through others eyes and not your own.

The difference between nourishing the kid in you and being immature. If the kid in you is alive, you are known to be dumb and immature but your innocence and inquisitiveness is never valued.

The difference between setting expectations and being truly. If you put forth your likes and dislikes, what hurts you or what you don’t like,  you are known to be too demanding ruling over others and not accommodative.

The difference between strength and tolerance.
Your tolerance towards other people’s torture, physical and mental harassment is called your strength. Such a wrong way of defining strength.

The difference between being ambitious and insensitiveness. If you respect yourself, your ambition, your career,  you are selfish and insensitive.

The difference between obedience and being submissive. You are required to be submissive, not have a voice against anything unjustly. You should adhere to everything your better half or family dictates. Thats called obedience instead of submissiveness.

The difference between being stylish and carrying self well.
Its not wrong to be selfish or carry yourself well actually. But if you are carrying yourself well but blamed of being a style freak, its fine to be considered so.

The difference between empathy and having no preference for self.
The moment you prefer self over others in even a single instance, all the empathy you’ve shown towards others all the while for years is nullified.

The difference between co-existing and sharing a roof.
Living with someone under one roof and sharing each others pain, chores, responsibilities, loving each other are two different things which do not mean the same.

The difference between dominance and love.
In a relation, your opinion should count, your thoughts should not be suppressed in the name of love. The husband should also be willing to accept, support and treat you as equals and not only dominate you.

Wish we could make our daughters strong at heart and thoughts. We could make better daughter-in-laws and a better world in turn. It would lead to a society of responsible and loving men, sons, husbands, son-in-laws who would promote women’s respect by not only preaching but following too.

-Sucheta Gour

Happy Teachers’ Day to one and all!

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Teacher is one person whom everyone will have come across in their lives. Everyone might have come across a teacher in different ways. In a mother, father, teacher, Mentor, Manager,Friend, husband, wife, Child, Client or even a stranger. How much we learnt from any of them can never be measured or evaluated. The Return On Investment of any teachers’ efforts are seen in their student’s success and not in the remuneration they earn.
Hats off to such teachers and the feeling of owning their student.
Happy Teachers’ Day to one and all!!! I owe the best in me to you all.

-Sucheta Gour

Daughter VS Daughter in Law | Family quotes | Best womens blog

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When it is Daughters, we want to be supporting their careers, baby sitting her children and helping with house hold chores too.

When it is Daughter in laws, we do not even motivate them to carry on with a decent job.

 

When Daughters, we advise them to pursue to take only 3 months maternity leave to avoid a long gap in the career.

When Daughter in laws, we expect them to take a sabbatical for years till the child starts going to school or at times even post that.

When it is Daughter, we want them to spend lakhs on their shopping and looking beautiful. We are proud of their spending.

When it is Daughter in laws, we want them to be natural and find any basic efforts of grooming to be over fashionable.

 

When it is Daughters, we get an executive check-up done even for a simple head ache.

When it is Daughter in laws, even a severe illness needn’t be given importance and spent upon or the other extreme way is if she falls ill we says what a weak girl my Daughter in law is.

When a Daughter has Male Colleagues whom she works with shoulder to shoulder or late hours, we are proud.

When a Daughter in law even works in an office filled with Male she is characterless

 

When a Daughter carries herself well she has a style, a good dressing sense and mannerism too.

When a Daughter in law carries herself well, she is being fashionable attracting other Men.

 

A Daughter is taught how to hook up and control her husband and in laws.

In case of Daughter in law, the son is expected to control Daughter in laws.

Definitely one partner should compromise, sacrifice and maintain a low profile when it comes to a successful Family. But should it always be the same partner all the while or should it be divided.

 

Wow! What a society we Women have created for ourselves? Hats off to our double standards which we have nourished and empowered for generations.

-Sucheta Gour

Download your gratitude in the right place – Relationship of Mother | Wife | Love |Caring

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It is very common and easy to glorify another woman, but very difficult and rare to appreciate, support and respect the woman in our life.

How often have we told our Mom,

“You’ve been a Wonderful Mom, I owe you all my good qualities and achievements till now. You’ve made the toughest compromises and sacrifices to make me reach where I am.”

or to your wife –

“You’ve stood by me through thick and thin. I couldn’t have done better in my life without you. You keep me focused on my goals, by keeping me away from all the other worries and challenges of life about home and children. You have supported me to have a good journey of life.”

“If not for you people I would have been a hollow person from within and wouldn’t have reached so far.”

Keep all the awkwardness, funny and strange feeling aside. Speak out, atleast sometimes. Your words make their lives contented. BEGIN TODAY. Your mom will feel proud and acknowledged for all the efforts and compromises of her life.

Your wife will respect, love you more and feel valued. Remember you aren’t giving the women too much importance by saying so. They wouldn’t start flying sky high with your reciprocation of gratitude. They would feel humbled rather. You are just making them feel complete.

There isn’t any point in appreciating them in front of your friends. It’s only glorifying yourself again that you are appreciating your Wife and Mom. You value them, you want recognition and appreciation for doing this too.

Rather dare to overcome your hesitation-speak to them right in their eyes and say ‘THANK YOU’. You will definitely see tears of joy and contentment in their eyes. You will see them feeling their lifetime efforts justified and acknowledged.

Even God needs you to say ‘THANK YOU’ to keep hearing your wishes and granting them. Don’t expect women to be better than God though, we really need to appreciate them to be doing everything for us unconditionally and without any expectation for self.

– Sucheta Gour