There is nothing called as perfect parenting. Every parent struggles with their first child. Lives in fear and inhibitions about being right or wrong. Most of the parents are either overcautious or very relaxed while raising the second or third. Which action or no action of yours will lead to favorable or unfavorable outcome is a very uncertain scenario. What are the influences, threats, fancies he has can’t be judged in a linear thought. His strengths, efforts, confidence about certain things aren’t measurable with clarity all the time. His likes, dislikes aren’t predictable in different phases of life. To add to all of it, there are hormonal changes which make the assumptions more fluctuating. Their ambitions, skills, interests, focus are basis their instincts towards their dreams, fantasies or observations. How much to speak and hear is not dependent on what we can take but on what keeps the child’s mind in good hygiene.
At one point of time, all parents regret of having been incorrect, principled, rigid, liberal, so on and so forth… Our own child, our blood and flesh, our genes and still we run through an emotional roller coaster ride while bringing them up.
So finally its all about keeping all your activities in a circle and not restricting it to a dot. And this circle will be created based on our parents inputs while raising us, observation from other parents, certain lessons learnt and certain principles followed. Any level of deviation is fine but within the circle.
Its better not to give any property or immovable assets to our children. The claims that come in when you are gone are unimaginable. Its like leaving behind a bunch of enemies in the disguise of relatives. Fighting your own kith and kin is a great heartache. Additionally the battle you have to put up for years keep you exhausted on your time, emotions and energy.
And above all, is such a fight worth it? An other fear is what if your child doesnt achieve anything by himself on his own capabilities. By giving him a secured feeling of having property arent we giving him an option to be lazy and not work hard. Are we raising our children to carry only our identity or build their own? Are we selfish than being sensible? Now speaking of securing their education and livelihood cost till the completion of their education. That is the only earning we need to save and transfer to our kid.
Why not give your children best of the education, teach them the best ways of life which would help them earn and enjoy more than what you could give them.
Additionally, we could leave behind so much in surplus for the society. The lower rung of the society which can even be benefited by 1/5th of the property left behind will be grateful. And if they aren’t grateful also, isnt someone else keeping the account of our good and bad deeds?
Every parent has a feeling, whatever earned by me belongs to my child. All of us can earn money for our children. How about earning blessings directly from Him, unfiltered, unaltered?