In today’s world most of the times, we have a primary and secondary family.
A primary family before marriage are parents and siblings who become your secondary family after marriage. Because your primary family then, are your spouse and children. After your children grow up, the same primary family is restricted to you and your spouse only.
Family is one social institution where you can be yourself, expect other members to be themselves. You laugh, you cry, you show your anger, frustration, contentment to the members of the family. You care and are cared when you need them or vice versa.
You have all your right on them and they also in turn. The members aren’t perfect but they are there for you whether they like it or not because you all are sailing in the same ship.  And you are destined to be going through the same storm or calm waters as other family members atleast for the time you are together.
At times you balance out the odds, conceal  ones grief with other’s happiness.

There are people who do not want to believe in family, do not intend to have one or value one if they have.
Reasons are many…..
Their family isn’t having the perfect family members.
They have seen people struggling with compatibility issues with spouses.
They feel children are too big a responsibility
Or children have discipline issues.
They’ve had bad marriages in the past or seen some.
Spouse or Parents are too demanding..
With all odds, we need to deal with all these improvising our skills , building acceptance to all and still have and value atleast a primary family.

-Sucheta Gour