By Someonewise 
So much advice, so much gyan on WhatsApp statuses, blogs, and social media. Almost everyone relates to them at one point or another in life. Yet, most people relate only as the victim. Rarely do they pause to ask whether they have ever been the one at fault.
“Leaders should be like this… but my leaders aren’t, so I am the victim.”
“Managers shouldn’t behave this way… but mine do.”
But how are you as a manager? Are you the kind of manager you expect yours to be?
“My parents raised me with all the flaws I keep reading about in statuses.”
But when you become a parent, how different will you be? Will your approach truly be better, or will you realize your own limitations only after your child labels you a bad parent?
We often read that friends and neighbours shouldn’t behave in certain ways. But how good a friend or neighbour are you? What limitations have you set in those relationships? And if the very same limitations were placed on you by your friends or neighbours, would you accept them with the same understanding?
We live in a world of hypocrisy—expecting God-like qualities in others while refusing to acknowledge the imperfections within ourselves. Perhaps calling them “demons” is too harsh. Maybe they are simply the other side of being human: our limitations, our circumstances, our maturity that comes with age, and the boundaries we learn are necessary in relationships.
We have two choices. Either stop expecting perfection from others, understand and respect the limitations that every human being carries, think less about judging others, and stop sympathizing with ourselves every time a WhatsApp status makes us feel like the victim…
Or simply accept that there is an imperfect side within you too.