What is the extent of applying this word? It spans from the right end to the wrong end. We see people compromising to the extent of making their lives miserable.On the other hand even the slightest discomfort is called the greatest compromise. And this scenario is is in multiple stages or areas with different people in life. It can be in relations like a Boss – Team member, Company – Employee, Husband – Wife, Parent – Child, Between Siblings, Peers or Neighbors too. Who will define the minimum, extreme or intolerable threshold? In what scenarios, the definition will hold good? At times it gets limited to what someone can tolerate. In that case, is it based on the person’s tolerance levels? Or the actual extreme levels?
Every relation demands compromise.There are multiple aspects to carry on mind when the tolerance limit needs to be set. Compromise for the good of the relation, family, Organization, and an amicable living but within the limits of standard levels of compromise and not beyond the level of tolerance.
• No one gets to live a perfect life, a perfect relation. • Desire is the cause of misery. • Be happy with your lives. • Expectations ruin relations.
80% of Indian women have taken these statements so seriously that they eventually have landed up in a compromise of highest level with their lives. They’ve sacrificed themselves in the name of integrity, responsibility, family dignity, commitment and society. Their confidence levels are so low that, their expectations have reduced to food, shelter, clothing and a man’s protection in the society. They dont know how normal relations and a happy life would be. Their identities are either as a wife, mother or daughter. They dont exist as human beings in the first place with emotions and individual thoughts or ideologies. Their cant be a differentiation between a machine and them.
If they object or try to correct or keep expectations, they are treated like anti-social elements of the society or revolutionists. Wishing their own happiness, thinking of having their wish list also is beyond their imaginations. Whereas on the other hand, Men can have expectations from their wives throughout their lives. Women have to be instrumental in every way to satisfy his wish list either directly or indirectly. And inspite of her contribution in the man’s success, she is not credited with even due respect for her existence on the earth. This is where we stand as a society. India is an agricultural and labour force – focus country. And this is how, women are placed in both these areas.