Wives are bad, Husbands are bad, Mothers are bad, and Fathers are bad. Daughters are bad, Sons are bad, and Daughter in laws are bad. Why there is never a son in law who is bad. Because the expectations are zero from a son in law. He is only born to receive and not give. Be it gifts, property, money, accolades.
Again sons are bad only after daughter in laws come in. What an illogical theory we have adapted. A son whom we have given birth to, whose culture is ours and whose thought process is developed by us is blamed of being influenced overnight by someone.
A son in law is never expected to pay a mother in law’s hospital bill as a duty. If he happens to do so it is a favor. And a daughter in law’s duty is to spend every penny she has earned for her mother in law when such a situation arises.
A son is supposed to pay a maintenance cost to his parents or at times other family members monthly even if they have a regular source of income like pension or some other source like rent or farm source. This is considered his ethical responsibility else he is an ungrateful son. His love is calculated on his spending capacity on them.
Whereas a daughter is not supposed to support her parent’s even if they do not a have a source to support a comfortable life in their old age.
A son in law should never care for his in laws by being with them in the hospital if they are hospitalised. But a daughter in law is required to do all her duties like a family member.
People live life like a punishment. Whereas, life is always a blessing. We err, we succeed, and we perceive right or wrong things. We can see, hear, think, and speak. Whereas, none of the other living beings can do all these things.
We are strong, weak, happy, and sad. Sometimes we are ignorant, or enjoy our mistakes and sometimes we take pain in walking the right path.
We come across right, wrong, good, bad people. We are wrong, we are right. We learn, unlearn, and forget what we learn, relearn what we require. But all these are ways of life.
A journey unavoidable. We are all alone through all this. We and our thought process which influence our state of mind. We feel we have our near and dear ones along with us. But nothing and no one can come in the way of our interactions with any of the above.
We and our thought process decide how we will face all these. So, why blame life? Life as a human being is the most precious gift of God.
People have been motivating me with a perfect picture in everything I do and I am motivated to reach there. I don’t want to carry a doubt about the perfect picture because need to chase everything worthy, to be successful. Our standards elevate with such dreams, hopes and motivations.
At times I am forced to think; due to all the unnecessary practical thoughts that, Is there a perfect picture? But when I achieve such perfections (from the past instance), its more satisfying than the doubt itself.
I’m thankful to all the people around who pushed me to chase the perfect picture. Always felt it was worth trying, though at times I’m sure that the initiation point – the person responsible for motivation also couldn’t reach it. Finally I realize the perfect picture were at times – his fancies otherwise which I achieved.
So even people who aren’t achievers or perfectionists also contribute for your achievements of a perfect picture. Give an ear to everyone who can motivate you.
Observing faces and trying to read them has been my hobby for quite some time now. All I figured out was, I saw 99.9% faces having serious thoughts on their mind.
Few read about feeling inferior looking at people around, few read about the burden of their personal problems few more read of their professional problems, few were tired of carrying their confidence with deliberate attempts and few carried the fear of life, few carried the thoughts and anxiety of their following day’s assignment, few carried the worries of their problems, few carried the grief of the past and few carried the uncertainty of future.
No one lived in that moment. Was it that difficult to live that moment with happiness contentment letting the past and future go? Definitely you get different ideas looking at different people or in different places.
But, is smile so harmful that it curbs productive thoughts or does it support? Sometimes I felt blessed are the people from hospitality industry whose job required is to carry a smile on their face. Smile eases the thought and relaxes your mind.
90% of the times I feel tempted to give a hug to all these people and say ‘Chill, Life and everything around isn’t this ugly’.
Life with all its challenges, the spice of struggle, the sweetness of happiness, the sourness of fun and the bitterness of sorrow is the most delicious meal God has gifted us. Smile and Happiness are pride to carry and the most beautiful jewel which beautifies us from within too.