Should it be called ‘HOPE’ or GAMBLING with someone’s life because you have raised an unworthy human being?

I pity these women who get
An addict for husband (alcoholic, smoking, tobacco, drugs etc…,)
A lazy person or
A timid person with zero confidence
The family gets him married with the so-called their version of ‘HOPE’ that he will improve after marriage.
And the bride is completely unaware of these hard facts.


She agrees for marriage with her version of HOPE that she is getting a life partner who will love her, respect her, care for her and understands his responsibilities well towards her, their family and the future. She comes together to find shelter under him in the society to love, respect, care- for him and his family and be reciprocated for all of it.
To her dismay and distress, she discovers the adverse situation hidden and finally comes to terms with it. This is where her version of HOPE disappears and merges with the HOPE of her husband’s family. Suddenly she starts believing that she is the reincarnation of Satyavan’s Savitri who fought Lord Yama for her husband’s life.
She takes his cruelness, frustrations, disrespect, harsh words, comments, ill-treatment more like a servant than a wife.
And eventually forgets her identity, her wishes, the definition of happiness, love, marriage, care, partner and lives a mechanical life with minimal feelings for anything.
A life ruined for someone’s ‘HOPE’.
Should it be called ‘HOPE’ or GAMBLING with someone’s life because you have raised an unworthy human being?

-Sucheta Gour

National Women’s Day | Happy Women’s day to me!!! |

Hey Women! We have portrayed weak and despised upon ourselves all our lives. We envied each other, tortured each other, sympathized each other, pulled down each other, and bad mouthed each other. We motivated the society to be influenced by us and continue the legacy of the history way forward to future. We highlighted our weakness, our helplessness and our emotional mood swings.

80% of the Women don’t even know the meaning of women’s day or there exists a day like this or what difference does it make. And it actually doesn’t make a difference. It’s like Valentine’s Day or Father’s Day or Mother’s Day. It starts with a wish and further more a gift and a party.

For a change, this Women’s day let us not claim that we are strong or we are capable of handling all the relations and duties well. Because we don’t need a certificate for what we are. God has blessed us with many skills and inbuilt strengths.

This Women’s day take an opportunity to thank him and wish the world “Happy Women’s Day” for having been blessed with us. Donate to a cause of a Woman or Girl child. Men play similar roles of Father, Son, Brother, and Father like how we play Mother, Daughter, Sister, Wife, Daughter, but we do with more enthusiasm, colorfulness and with a smile.

So Hey Women, set yourselves on your wings to reach out to the sky. GIGGLE, LAUGH, LOOK GOOD, GO CRAZY, FREAK OUT, DANCE, SING, HAVE FUN.

You don’t need anyone to compliment you, motivate you and laugh with you. You deserve the best and all of it.

Happy Women’s day dear Woman!! Celebrating ourselves every moment!!

-Sucheta Gour

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Women – Idiotic and Funny? | Women quotes | Relationship Quotes

Women are idiotic and funny -A god gifted-personality trait of a Woman. This entertains the other gender and everyone around. Life would have been colorless without these colors for Men.

Imagine a Woman being composed always, portraying strong, super confident and overtly wise always. Wouldn’t she sound boring?

Again men have different opinions about this trait of Women for different relations in different phase.

For Men,

If for a Daughter, this trait is always appreciated.

If Friend or Girlfriend, then this trait is accepted and fancied for certain duration, preferably initial phase of interaction.

If it’s Wife, then men are highly irritated with this trait.

If it’s Mother, then they find it strange at times, at times sweet, at times annoying before their Friends.

If it’s Sister, then irritating at times and at times cute.

But remember, a Woman is like a prism who exhibits all the colors of a rainbow even if a pale white color light passes through her. Motivate her for carrying all these faces. One of confidence, of fear, of foolish courage, of idiotism, of fun, of patience, of strength, of wisdom and many more.

She is a combination of extreme traits coming together, and exhibiting many at the same time or different times. Definitely with all the responsible roles to play to perfection- she deserves to keep her brains aside at times to relax, which she often does when she looks and behaves funny and idiotic.

But Hey Man! Don’t get judgmental about her on this trait. She is just sharpening all her traits, and fueling herself when she does so.

-Sucheta Gour

 

Daughter VS Daughter in Law | Family quotes | Best womens blog

When it is Daughters, we want to be supporting their careers, baby sitting her children and helping with house hold chores too.

When it is Daughter in laws, we do not even motivate them to carry on with a decent job.

 

When Daughters, we advise them to pursue to take only 3 months maternity leave to avoid a long gap in the career.

When Daughter in laws, we expect them to take a sabbatical for years till the child starts going to school or at times even post that.

When it is Daughter, we want them to spend lakhs on their shopping and looking beautiful. We are proud of their spending.

When it is Daughter in laws, we want them to be natural and find any basic efforts of grooming to be over fashionable.

 

When it is Daughters, we get an executive check-up done even for a simple head ache.

When it is Daughter in laws, even a severe illness needn’t be given importance and spent upon or the other extreme way is if she falls ill we says what a weak girl my Daughter in law is.

When a Daughter has Male Colleagues whom she works with shoulder to shoulder or late hours, we are proud.

When a Daughter in law even works in an office filled with Male she is characterless

 

When a Daughter carries herself well she has a style, a good dressing sense and mannerism too.

When a Daughter in law carries herself well, she is being fashionable attracting other Men.

 

A Daughter is taught how to hook up and control her husband and in laws.

In case of Daughter in law, the son is expected to control Daughter in laws.

Definitely one partner should compromise, sacrifice and maintain a low profile when it comes to a successful Family. But should it always be the same partner all the while or should it be divided.

 

Wow! What a society we Women have created for ourselves? Hats off to our double standards which we have nourished and empowered for generations.

-Sucheta Gour

Smile and Happiness | Positive Thoughts | Self Motivating | Blogs | Quotes

Observing faces and trying to read them has been my hobby for quite some time now. All I figured out was, I saw 99.9% faces having serious thoughts on their mind.

Few read about feeling inferior looking at people around, few read about the burden of their personal problems few more read of their professional problems, few were tired of carrying their confidence with deliberate attempts and few carried the fear of life, few carried the thoughts and anxiety of their following day’s assignment, few carried the worries of their problems, few carried the grief of the past and few carried the uncertainty of future.

No one lived in that moment. Was it that difficult to live that moment with happiness contentment letting the past and future go? Definitely you get different ideas looking at different people or in different places.

But, is smile so harmful that it curbs productive thoughts or does it support? Sometimes I felt blessed are the people from hospitality industry whose job required is to carry a smile on their face. Smile eases the thought and relaxes your mind.

90% of the times I feel tempted to give a hug to all these people and say ‘Chill, Life and everything around isn’t this ugly’.

Life with all its challenges, the spice of struggle, the sweetness of happiness, the sourness of fun and the bitterness of sorrow is the most delicious meal God has gifted us. Smile and Happiness are pride to carry and the most beautiful jewel which beautifies us from within too.

-Sucheta Gour

Who loves whom?? | An Article about | Love | Relationship | Life | Quotes

When do you know she loves you?

When she can observe you for hours noticing and being amused with every expression of yours. She imitates you unknowingly.

When she forgets to see around when she is with you.

When she is keen on how you see her than how the world sees her.

When she can be the boldest across the world and still shy away when it comes to you.

When she annoys you for small things and fears your anger.

When she finds no flaws in your looks.

When she knows you like the back of her hand?

When she cares for you like an infant and seek your arms to feel secured.

When she cherishes every moment with you.

When she is cautious about her actions not to hurt you even when you aren’t around.

When she wishes your good by habit and not deliberately.

When she trusts you more than herself

When she fears losing you which shows in her possessiveness.

When people place and things remind her of you which means her world revolves around you.

When she is 100% sure you would never hurt her.

When she corrects your wrong and appreciates your right.

When she feels offended about anyone looking down upon you and corrects your flaws before others notice and look down upon you.

When she can find answers for your every question.

Pray for you day and night. When she can fight with God to change your destiny to good.

When she authorise you to be possessive about her love.

When she feels overwhelmed and proud of your success.

When she looks for her identity in you and you become her priority above herself.

When she is never contented by your achievement and keep aiming higher for you raising the bar of perfection.

When she tries every attempt to be your strength and not your weakness.

Stand by you through thick and thin. Motivates you knowing your shortfalls either by provoking you or appreciating you.

Help you recognise your strengths and boost them up. Recognise your weakness and make you overcome them.

When she doesn’t gauge you by your bank balance, but the emotional quotient of your heart for her.

And when all this is done unconditionally, you know you are the one she has chosen to belong to.

A combination of mother, girlfriend, wife and daughter.

 

And when does the woman get to know that he doesn’t love her?

 

When he doesn’t value any of the above and still questions your fundamentals.

Treats you like an intruder amidst his family. Is biased by his upbringing and society’s wrong influences alone and hardly behaves educated.

Keeps secrets from you.

Questions your integrity even at the end of your life.

Takes you for granted owing to your gender and the rules of society set for you.

Your 200% love is considered your bare minimum duty and even 10% reciprocation is considered a favor.

Not willing to compromise on his luxuries or fun which are considered needs but your needs are considered luxuries.

When he chooses you to compromise on your career, health and relaxation for his comfort.

When he is unaware of any of your sacrifices, your care becomes nagging and concern becomes irritation and botherance.

When you become one more woman on the earth and no more remain a special person though you do the maximum justice to the relation.

When he is sure that you wouldn’t leave him inspite of all his emotional torture or insensitiveness because your culture and society doesn’t accept your betrayal to him or independence from him.

A combination of a stranger, cheater and an enemy in disguise.

The next set of questions to follow in the next blog.

– Sucheta Gour

Oh! Its easy to impress her | Inspiration Saying | Relationship Blogs

Women need not be raped forcefully. Men know better ways to have her. Connect emotionally, pretend ethical, sympathize her, be empathetic, gather sympathy from her, admire her and appreciate her.

There she goes flying in his arms to love him unconditionally, falling prey to his tricks. Thereon she wakes up only to know she has lost herself to a wrong person. So women out there be aware of such treacherous people.

If you need a shoulder find one of your gender – a friend or if another gender a person whom you know for really long and who won’t make advantage of your situation and just lend you a shoulder in a fair way.

Your situation should not become someone’s opportunity.

Educate your Daughters, Wife, Sisters and Friends to handle their emotions well. Observe them closely if something is bothering them. Motivate them to speak out and share. Lend them a shoulder when they need you the most. Reiterate your support and love for them. World out there is very selfish, opportunist and unethical to the core.

-Sucheta Gour

Download your gratitude in the right place – Relationship of Mother | Wife | Love |Caring

It is very common and easy to glorify another woman, but very difficult and rare to appreciate, support and respect the woman in our life.

How often have we told our Mom,

“You’ve been a Wonderful Mom, I owe you all my good qualities and achievements till now. You’ve made the toughest compromises and sacrifices to make me reach where I am.”

or to your wife –

“You’ve stood by me through thick and thin. I couldn’t have done better in my life without you. You keep me focused on my goals, by keeping me away from all the other worries and challenges of life about home and children. You have supported me to have a good journey of life.”

“If not for you people I would have been a hollow person from within and wouldn’t have reached so far.”

Keep all the awkwardness, funny and strange feeling aside. Speak out, atleast sometimes. Your words make their lives contented. BEGIN TODAY. Your mom will feel proud and acknowledged for all the efforts and compromises of her life.

Your wife will respect, love you more and feel valued. Remember you aren’t giving the women too much importance by saying so. They wouldn’t start flying sky high with your reciprocation of gratitude. They would feel humbled rather. You are just making them feel complete.

There isn’t any point in appreciating them in front of your friends. It’s only glorifying yourself again that you are appreciating your Wife and Mom. You value them, you want recognition and appreciation for doing this too.

Rather dare to overcome your hesitation-speak to them right in their eyes and say ‘THANK YOU’. You will definitely see tears of joy and contentment in their eyes. You will see them feeling their lifetime efforts justified and acknowledged.

Even God needs you to say ‘THANK YOU’ to keep hearing your wishes and granting them. Don’t expect women to be better than God though, we really need to appreciate them to be doing everything for us unconditionally and without any expectation for self.

– Sucheta Gour