By Someonewise 
We often take our loved ones for granted. We feel entitled to criticize, scold, or hurt them because they are “ours.” Yet the moment someone else does the same, we become fiercely protective because our love for them is stronger than our frustration with them.
The irony is that the people we defend most passionately from outsiders are often the same people we hurt most carelessly on the inside.
A healthier principle might be:
If I don’t want others to disrespect my spouse, children, parents, or siblings, I shouldn’t disrespect them either. Love isn’t just protecting them from the world; it’s protecting them from unnecessary hurt caused by me.
Respect means the most when it’s shown to those closest to us, not just to strangers.